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THE
QUESTION:
GE110: Why do guys act differently toward girls once they
reach around age 19? Is it because they are scared of
commitment?
POSTED JAN. 19, 1999
Laura R., 21, female
<laja32778@aol>,
Indianapolis , IN
ANSWER 1:
I think it must be the individuals you're meeting, because
I've had the opposite experience. In my opinion, guys reach a certain
point of maturity at around age 19. Also, anyone (male or female) can
be reluctant to commit. No one wants to be pressured to commit to
another person.
POSTED JAN. 20, 1999
S.R., white female, 20, Austin , TX
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THE QUESTION:
GE109: Why are men so uninterested in marriage while women
can't wait? Society teaches girls to dream of marrying Prince
Charming, but boys grow up watching Cinderella, too. How can we be so
different?
POSTED JAN. 19, 1999
Jen C., 21, white, female, student
<dream_hot@hotmail.com>,
Philadelphia, PA
ANSWER 1:
For men, it's a tough game of cards. If we lose, we lose
everything, including our home, children, half our income and
possibly a family-owned business. We men have to be careful in the
mate we choose.
POSTED JAN. 27, 1999
Christopher D., 22, male
<alphacentuari@mindspring.com>,
Arlington, TX
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THE QUESTION:
GE108: To women: What are your opinions on the distinctions
between (amorous or otherwise) "submission" and "surrender"?
POSTED JAN. 18, 1999
Alonzo C., African-American male, Jacksonville, FL
ANSWER 1:
"Submission" delineates a state of mind particularly
sought after and cultivated. In other terms it might be thought of as
a mental state. "Surrender" is usually a physical act and/or is
evidenced by the act of surrendering.
POSTED FEB. 10, 1999
Aris A, 22, white female.
<Arissssss@AOL.com>,
Alameda, Bay Area, CA
FURTHER NOTICE:
Although these words are often used interchangeably, I
think the distinction relates to whether the person who is yielding
to another does so by choice. To me, surrender implies yielding to
someone else because that person has demanded that you do so or
because you are compulsively inclined to do so. Submission, on the
other hand, implies you are yielding to the other person because you
are humble or compliant; perhaps you are willing to submit to
someone's authority because you have a tremendous amount of respect
for them. I guess, ultimately, the difference in my mind is that I
would submit to the authority of someone I respect, but I would not
want to surrender to anyone.
POSTED APRIL 7, 1999
Hope, white female, 30, Winston Salem, NC
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THE QUESTION:
GE107: For the ladies: Why does it seem women want to "change"
a guy? This is based on my 10 years of dating and finding only two
girls who accepted me totally.
POSTED JAN. 14, 1999
D., 25, male, MI
ANSWER 1:
For millions of years, in order to continue the human
race, women were stuck for at least four years in one place,
dependent on someone else to help keep them alive and help raise the
kid(s). Usually at least 10 years were required. It might make women
more likely to be very, very picky about choosing a mate.
POSTED FEB. 10, 1999
Aris A., 21, white/Hispanic female
<Arissssss@AOL.com>,
Alameda, Bay Area , CA
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THE QUESTION:
GE106: Why is it that modern feminists, although preaching
equality, seem to be stuck in the '60s? To me, they seem to
discriminate against women with more conservative views.
POSTED JAN. 14, 1999
C.C., 19, female, Kingston, Ontario, Canada
ANSWER 1:
I imagine you've come across a few "more leftist than
thou" feminists, who annoy me. But the notion that most feminists are
closed-minded or dogmatic is a stereotype - just like the stereotype
that feminists are unattractive. Talk to some feminists, and you'll
find that we have different definitions of the term and understand
that feminism means different things to different people. To me,
feminism is an awareness that women's everyday struggles in
relationships, with their body images, with trying to make a living
and support families, with fighting against detrimental sex roles,
are not just personal struggles but political struggles that affect
many women. It's about recognizing that there is a patriarchal power
structure and doing what we can to change it. In other words, to
quote the classic feminist motto, the personal is political. But I
understand and respect that other women will make different choices
than me as they negotiate the political with their own personal
situations.
POSTED JAN. 18, 1999
Rhiannon, 28, white heterosexual feminist
<rock0048@tc.umn.edu>,
Minneapolis, MN
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THE QUESTION:
GE105: Why don't women have the same sexual urges as men? What
prompts my question is that you don't ever see male prostitutes
soliciting and engaging female "clients," but the opposite (female
prostitutes soliciting male "clients") is evident in virtually every
major city in the United States.
POSTED JAN. 11, 1999
Michael M., male
<mikmyfield@aol.com>,
Bel Air, MD
ANSWER 1:
Sex drive varies from individual to individual, but a
major difference between men and women is the way their brains and
bodies are wired for sex. Women have wombs. Women can get pregnant
and are more protective of their bodies because they have more at
stake. Men cannot get pregnant and have little to lose in a sexual
encounter. (Diseases exist, yes, but I'm speaking in terms of
biological instinct.) Biologically, men aren't made for monogamy, and
their instinct is to sustain (the population of) mankind by
reproducing. By the way, male prostitution (while not as common) does
exist - I have a male friend who used to work for an "escort
service." And women have plenty of sexual urges! The ancient Greeks
warned their men that women would drain them of all of their sexual
energy.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
S.R., white female, 20,.Austin, TX
FURTHER NOTICE:
Biology is not destiny, but it does explain many human
behaviors. Most male mammals are quite promiscuous. They
instinctively seek to impregnate as many females as possible. Female
mammals, on the other hand, have a much greater stake in the
reproductive process than males - they're the ones who have to go
through months of gestation and months or years of raising the young.
Therefore, females of most animal species are much more selective
about their sexual partners. Now, since human babies are born
helpless and take much longer to reach maturity than most other baby
animals, a human female must be especially choosy - she wants a mate
who will take care of her and her children. Nowadays, of course,
women earn their own money, and because of birth control, don't have
to be as hesitant about engaging in sex as they used to. So, in the
distant future, it's possible women will be as promiscuous as men.
But it's unlikely. Our instinctive, animal urges don't change that
quickly.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
Astorian, 37, male, Austin, TX
FURTHER NOTICE 2:
First, there are such things as male prostitutes. Second,
most women become prostitutes not to please sexual urges of a man but
due to poverty. It's either have sex for money, or starve. On a
global level, girls are often sold into prostitution so families can
afford to live. Third, women have sexual urges just like men, yet
choose to express their urges differently. Women have to worry about
pregnancy, rape or getting beaten up, things that as males you would
have no concept of because it is a privilege you are born with and
therefore always overlook. Not exactly men's faults, but nonetheless
the reality of the differences between men and women and their sexual
choices. Therefore, many women feel safer having sex with men they
know and are comfortable with. Prostitutes, on the other hand, have
probably been so degraded, either by sexual or other forms of
physical abuse at a young age, that they don't care about themselves
enough to get out of the business, nor can they envision a bright,
prosperous future for them or their children.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
Sarah, 28, female
FURTHER NOTICE 3:
I'd wager that most female prostitutes aren't in their
profession because of their "sexual urges," but because it's the only
way they know to make money fast without starting at the bottom,
going to school, etc. If there weren't so many poor women with no
other options, there wouldn't be so many prostitutes.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
Wendy, 24, female, Atlanta, GA
FURTHER NOTICE 4:
I don't believe women in general have a lower sexual
desire than men. (Of course there are exceptions on both sides.) The
difference is, I think, one of conditions necessary for sexual desire
to arise. Most women don't "turn on/turn off" like a light-switch,
the way many men seem to. Most women need emotional intimacy before
sexual intimacy. Love, trust, commitment - all these things are often
prerequisites for having sex, because for most women sex and love are
not easily dissociable. I don't think very many women see the
attraction in paying a stranger to have sex.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
C.P., female, 21, Montreal, Quebec, Canada
FURTHER NOTICE 5:
The classic answer is that women view sex in the context
of long-term relationships (securing a father/husband to raise a
child). The extent to which this reaction is biological or societal
has been debated by scholars for several decades. Women have been
socialized to view sex as more dangerous for women than men (think
rape or unwanted pregnancy). Also, young girls are taught to suppress
the recognition and acknowledgement of sexual urges. Boys are taught
that this is a normal part of growing up. Look at how many
coming-of-age movies about boys center on the loss of virginity as a
positive experience. How many movies about girls show the loss of
virginity without a self-destructive end or social
stigmatization?
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
Stacee, 30, female, Houston, TX
FURTHER NOTICE 6:
I'm paraphrasing Dr. Ruth here (from Sex for
Dummies): Men and women generally (this is a broad
generalization) have different feelings toward sex. Men have an
easier time separating love/romance from sex. That is why it is
easier for men to have a "quickie" with a prostitute. There are
gigilos out there, but they usually have long-running relationships
with their clients that involve more than sex. The service-providers
are just catering to their clients like any other business. Gigilos
most likely don't have to solicit their services in the same way.
Again, this is a generalization. There are plenty of exceptions.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
White, 25, CA
FURTHER NOTICE 7:
For a species to survive, you need a lot of creatures to
reach the age of being able to reproduce. While both genders of our
species clearly have a sex drive, men are more instinctually driven
to "spread seed" to create infants, and women are more instinctively
driven to nurture infants through to an age where they are
self-sufficient, and as a corollary to find a mate who can be a
provider for children. These instinctive roles obviously can fly in
the face of modern concepts of morality and gender equity.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
B. Hale, monogamous
<halehart@aol.com>,
Hartford, CT
FURTHER NOTICE 8:
I do not know one way or the other whether women have less
sexual desires than men. I do, however, believe the reasons behind
your observations lie not in the disparity of sexual drives but the
"morality" differences imposed in our society.
POSTED JAN. 12, 1999
Michael, 28, white male
<Mjick@aol.com>, Southfield
, MI
FURTHER NOTICE 9:
I find the responses of the women to this honest question
mind-boggling. Every one of them brings up biology, child-rearing,
finances, so-called emotional ties, and so on. Surely 20 years into
the feminist movement, when a lot of strides have been made by men to
help in child-rearing, women can once and for all liberate their
sexual desires from the "accessories" of child-rearing, financial
security, etc., and go get sex just like men. but no, we just sing
the same old tune and then are surprised when men act in the same old
way! i submit that we need to liberate our heads about sex, and not
just decide to have good careers, earn good money, etc.(all of which
i heartily agree with). as a matter of fact, nothing has changed in
the relation between men and women, and nothing ever will.
POSTED JAN. 15, 1999
V.V., married female <VIJAY@DAUPHINE.FR>, Paris, France
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THE QUESTION:
GE104: I've worked in several offices and have noticed that
women are noisier than men. Throughout the day, the sound of women
bursting into laughter is heard over the background noise. I don't
hear guys doing this. Why is this?
POSTED JAN. 4, 1999
Alan, 43, male
<davey@spiritone.com>,
Portland, OR
ANSWER 1
Just because those particular women are expressive does
not put them into the category of being noisy. Maybe you should ask
them and see what type of response you get.
POSTED JAN. 5, 1999
Female, black, Chicago, IL
FURTHER NOTICE:
To Female: Actually, it has been proven that women are
nosier and gossip more. Although, I do know plenty of men who exceed
any woman I know when it comes to gossiping. I think it goes back to
the fact that woman are more open with their friends and therefore
talk about personal issues with each other more easily. This leads to
wanting to know more about people, and telling people what they know.
Men are too masculine and tough to talk about their personal problems
with other men.
POSTED FEB. 10, 1999
Leanne, 19, white female
<haylie79@hotmail.com>,
NY
FURTHER NOTICE 2:
Maybe one of the reasons you hear women more than men is
that usually our voices are higher-pitched. Also, as another person
put it, men aren't usually sitting around talking about their
personal lives. And yes, men do gossip - they just refuse to call it
that. What is the fascination men have for sports? Isn't it
interesting that most male sports have balls in them?
POSTED MARCH 9, 1999
Sue
<baskthed@flash.net>,
Fort Worth , Tx
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THE QUESTION:
GE103: My body seems asymmetrical: One of my breasts is larger
than the other, and one of my hips is more pronounced than the other.
I would like to know how men feel about this.
POSTED DEC. 30, 1998
T.L., white female, 21, San Antonio , TX
ANSWER 1:
That you say your body "seems asymmetrical" would indicate
that the differences are not major and are probably within normal
limits. Actually, normal breasts can be quite asymmetrical. This is
less true for weight-bearing structures like the hips, though even
here no one is perfectly symmetrical. You should focus on staying fit
through proper diet and exercise and avoiding smoking, drugs and
alcohol abuse. In addition, cultivate good points such as your
inquiring mind, and don't be concerned about how symmetrical your
body is. Any man who is put off by this is not worth your time. Most
will not be.
POSTED JAN. 5, 1999
M.D. male 60, Cliffside Park, NJ
FURTHER NOTICE:
Everyone's body is a bit asymmetrical. Nearly all women
have one breast slightly larger than the other. With men this is also
true. To put it gently, "one hangs lower than the other." Relax and
don't worry. It probably seems more pronounced because you're
concerned about it. I'll bet no one else thinks this about you.
POSTED JAN. 26, 1999
F.B., 34, straight white male
<lugh77@yahoo.com>,
Dallas , TX
FURTHER NOTICE 2:
In my opinion, women have much more problems with their
own bodies than men have with them. For example, I dated girls who
were very worried about being too fat or too thin, and I didn't even
recognize it. I speak only for myself, but I think these little
differences make people sometimes more attractive because they make
them unique. And erotically seen, such things could be more exciting
than an average body.
POSTED FEB. 4, 1999
Phil, 19, male, Germany
<pmal42@gmx.net>
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THE QUESTION:
GE102: What are people's opinions of unmarried women? What is
your reaction to a woman telling you she is unmarried, but a mother?
What about unmarried and childless? Does that opinion change based on
age? At what age is it still OK to be unmarried and female? What
about a man in the same spot? If you were to meet a man who is 35 and
unmarried, would you assume there was something wrong with him?
POSTED DEC. 9, 1998
Apryl P., black female
<apryl@mail-me.com>, Oak
Park, MI
ANSWER 1:
As a never-married, 28-year-old heterosexual woman, I
do feel like there is something wrong with me. I have gone
through the "always a bridesmaid, never a bride" phase with all of my
friends, and now I'm going through Phase 2: Throwing baby showers for
all of my expectant friends. I realize people are getting married at
a later age these days, but I feel like once I hit 30, I've blown any
chance at all of ever getting married. Regarding single men of my age
and older, I admit that my first question is "what's wrong with him?"
But the reason for that is reflected in my above statement that
something is wrong with me for still being single. As far as single
mothers are concerned, I see nothing wrong with that. One-parent
families are sometimes the best thing for the child.
POSTED DEC. 16, 1998
J.P.J., 28, female, MI
FURTHER NOTICE:
I don't know about other guys my age (25), but I feel as
if something is wrong with me (being single at my age, that is).
Listening to and hearing about my college classmates' engagement
and/or birth announcements often drives me into deep depressions. The
depressing thing is some of my classmates are younger than I. I feel
as if something is missing in my life. All I can say is you aren't
walking alone.
POSTED DEC. 18, 1998
Vincent B., 25, single black male
<flame73@iols.net>,
Chicago, IL
FURTHER NOTICE 2:
I grew up in a family with two never-married aunts, so for
me, for a woman to not marry is a perfectly valid and reasonable
choice. Both of them have full lives, with many friends and jobs they
enjoy, and they have been wonderful role models for me and my younger
sister. As a result, I've always felt there can be (and are) as many
reasons for a woman not to be married as there are unmarried women.
It doesn't necessarily mean there's anything "wrong" with them. It's
probably better not to marry at all than to marry the wrong person
(which holds true for both men and women, in my opinion).
POSTED DEC. 18, 1998
Margaret E. female, Minneapolis , MN
FURTHER NOTICE 3:
As another 28-year-old, never-married heterosexual white
female, I am starting down that path of wondering what I think about
me. As the first respondent noted, my reaction to the thirtyish
never-married date prospect is to be a bit wary and put off by his
lack of marital history, so I assume his reaction to me is similar. I
don't know - do you want the 35-year-old with an ugly divorce behind
him, or the one who's never been down the aisle? The prevailing,
extremely personal questions are why are they single, why are they
divorced and where are they at mentally? It depends on the person.
Lately I have entertained the thought of raising a child alone if I
don't meet that marrying man in the next few years. I don't know, I'm
just trying to live it one day at a time.
POSTED DEC. 18, 1998
K.R., 28, single white female, Birmingham, AL
FURTHER NOTICE 4:
As a divorced, now single, 44-year-old female, I run into
a lot of bizarre situations. I have a non-traditional job for a
female in an industry that is predominantly male-oriented. Some
insecure, married women seem to find me threatening, or at least they
treat me with suspicion. Often I find that married men "hit" on me.
It is disturbing because my old tapes say "What is wrong with me?
What messages am I inadvertently sending?" One married male friend
and I were talking about one uncomfortable incident that I
experienced. He jokingly informed me that men look at a single female
my age and assume she "needs her ashes hauled." Yikes. I don't stand
a chance!
POSTED DEC. 18, 1998
J.W., white, 44, female
<CP1028@AOL.com>,
Milwaukee, WI
FURTHER NOTICE 5:
J.P.J.: I'm another 28-year-old unmarried straight woman,
and sweetheart, let me tell you that the only thing wrong with you is
that you have internalized bulls**t societal norms! There is nothing
wrong with being 28 and unmarried. There's nothing wrong with being
48 and unmarried. There is something wrong with women getting married
to abusive, patriarchal or simply incompatible men because they are
afraid to be alone, which is where you may wind up. In a society that
teaches women in all kinds of subtle and not-so-subtle ways that we
have little value if a man doesn't love us, being alone is being a
rebel. Embrace your rebel status, and be grateful you're not in a
lousy marriage. If and when a great man comes along, you'll know you
held out for what you deserve.
POSTED DEC. 18, 1998
Rhiannon, 28, single feminist babe
<rock0048@tc.umn.edu>,
Minneapolis, MN
FURTHER NOTICE 6:
I am a single woman and plan to remain that way. While I
am only 24 and may of course change my mind later, I am beginning to
watch my friends get married off. It has been very hard to see my
friends, both male and female, who once had big ideas and goals for
themselves, compromise their values and dreams in the interest of
staying together and getting married. Or to observe them choosing men
who are not necessarily good for them out of fear of being left
behind in the marriage game.
Much like the first respondent, many women feel like there is
something wrong with them if they don't wed; marriage has evolved
into some bizarre ritual of validation for women. Honestly, I regard
single women with a bit more respect than married women. Ask yourself
honestly, after 20 years of marriage, how many truly happy and "in
love" couples do you know? Not many. Marriages are characterized by
power struggles, abuse, coldness and dishonesty. I'm not being
cynical; if you study family and culture, you will see that these
characteristics are the norm and not the exception. In light of that,
I seriously do not comprehend the emphasis that our culture still
places on marriage. I am involved in a very loving, respectful,
understanding relationship, and yet all anyone wants to ask me is,
"When are you two going to tie the knot?" Why does that matter? I'm
not anti- marriage, but I certainly appreciate a woman who
appreciates how very optional married living is, and is able to first
find fulfillment within herself - something all too many women don't
learn to do until after the divorce.
POSTED DEC. 18, 1998
D.M.M., female
<donikam@hotmail.com>,
Charleston , SC
FURTHER NOTICE 7:
To J.P.J.: Come on, woman! I know it's hard to be
perceived as the "odd woman out" and feel like others are looking
down at you, but if anyone is going to change their perception, it's
got to be you. Be happy with who you are. Develop your skills
and hobbies. Recognize that there is nothing wrong with you. Don't be
fooled into thinking that any man is better than no man. I'm
pushing 30 myself, and although I'm married, there are many other
areas of my life yet to be explored. It ain't over till it's over.
How many 40- or 50-year-olds do you know who are on their second or
third marriage (and have yet to really find their soul mate)? Maybe
you're just skipping over the naive, impulsive first marriage and
heading straight for the more fulfilling second marriage! Don't give
up.
POSTED DEC. 21, 1998
28-year-old white female, New York , NY
FURTHER NOTICE 8:
It's perfectly fine to not marry, no matter your age.
However, call me old-fashioned or judgmental, but I judge
never-married mothers as either selfish, foolish or the
victims of assault.
POSTED DEC. 27, 1998
Anne, female, FL
FURTHER NOTICE 9:
I am 44 and happily single. I don't have to answer to
anyone. If I want to spend three hours in the tub with a good book, I
can. I can hop in the car anytime and go anywhere I want. There are
times I wish I had someone to share things with, although I don't
think I'd live with her. I had surgery a year ago, and it was kind of
lonely without someone there to hold my hand. And almost all social
situations are couples-related. Even in the gay world, I'd welcome a
girlfriend, but again, I don't think I'd move in with her. After all,
if we had a fight, I could tell her to go home.
POSTED FEB. 5, 1999
Crazy cat lady, Fort Worth, Tx
FURTHER NOTICE 10:
I feel that unmarried people in their 30s (which includes
myself) are those who just haven't found Mr or Ms. Right yet, and
aren't willing to marry just because society thinks they should. I've
dated some wonderful women, but none who were right for me (or vice
versa). That said, it makes me a bit nervous to hear that women look
at single men in my age bracket as somehow "defective." I think of
myself as unladen with baggage from a hasty marriage, with more
maturity and life experience than when I was 23 or 24, but it looks
like some women don't see it that way, even those in the same boat. I
hope these answers aren't representative of the singles population as
a whole.
POSTED APRIL 7, 1999
F.B., 30-something single male
<lugh77@yahoo.com>,
Dallas , TX
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THE QUESTION:
GE101: Why do women voluntarily wear high heels? Once you try
them on and see that they hurt, why continue? I see them as unnatural
torture devices. As a man, I want a woman walking at my side during
my twilight years, and not lamed or worse by high heels.
POSTED DEC. 2, 1998
Joe N., 44
<nievesj@mindspring.com>,
Bronx, NY
ANSWER 1:
Fashion, fashion, fashion. Women learn in subtle and not
so subtle ways to put looks (and by extension getting a man) ahead of
comfort. Look in any woman's magazine. But more and more women are
catching on that wearing heels is just plain crazy. In fact, I hadn't
seen women in heels for several years until I moved to Connecticut
and started hanging out in New York City. Ick.
POSTED DEC. 4, 1998
Kathy, 34, Danbury , CT
FURTHER NOTICE:
I'm basically with you on this one (being someone who
wears running shoes pretty much everywhere), but I think I can
understand some of the pressures to wear them. By modern standards,
and modern fashion, they make you look good. Most people are willing
to bear a little discomfort in order to look good; how much varies
with the individual. Women are acculturated that the single-largest
indicator of our personal worth is our appearance. (And even to those
of us who don't buy it, this can be pretty insidious.) And most of us
think we're ugly, which makes us even more likely to go to unusual
lengths to feel attractive. They are also a part of professional
dress, which means that for certain jobs they are part of the
required (or de facto required) uniform.
POSTED DEC. 4 ,1998
Catherine H., 25, professional computer geek
<tylik@eskimo.com>,
Woodinville, WA
FURTHER NOTICE 2:
Some women wear them because they are unmarried,
unattractive and/or overweight and don't want anyone to think they
are gay. Don't laugh. I lived in a small town. Makeup and high heels
every day, without exception, kept rumors at bay.
POSTED DEC. 27, 1998
Anne, female, North, FL
FURTHER NOTICE 3:
As someone who has been through phases of 1) always
wearing uncomfortable professional shoes; 2.) swearing off
uncomfortable shoes completely, and now 3) wearing mostly comfortable
shoes and occasional high heels, I do want to point out that
sometimes wearing high heels can make a woman feel sexy and fun, just
as looking at women in high heels can make men feel the same way.
Many kinds of fun are worth occasional discomforts. (Take rock
climbing, for example. Nothing comfortable about it.)
POSTED JAN. 27, 1999
W.A., female
alter@onramp.net>, Dallas,
TX
FURTHER NOTICE 4:
I am 45 and haven't worn high heels in 20-plus years and
will never again. I like having my feet flat on the ground. I don't
understand why women squeeze their feet into shoes that smash their
toes. It's stupid. I am a nurse and see elderly women with crippled
toes, toes that are deformed and toes that cross over each other just
because they had to wear high heels to feel attractive. I never see
elderly men like this. That's one good thing about nursing: You're
not expected to wear shoes that kill you. Even on my days off I wear
Birkenstocks, they are so comfortable. Next time you hear a woman
complain how much her feet hurt, look at her footwear. If I ever had
a job that required high heels, I'd either get a doctor's note or
sue. I equate the shoe fashion dictates of what we must wear to
Chinese foot-binding.
POSTED MARCH 9, 1999
Flatfoot, female
<baskthed@flash.net>,
Ft Worth , Tx
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