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THE
QUESTION:
SE68: I was watching some gay porn the other day and a lot of
the anal sex just looked so uncomfortable. Are there any gay men who
find anal sex uncomfortable and not really a turn-on?
POSTED APRIL 19, 1999
Lisa, straight, 19, female, Santa Monica, CA
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THE QUESTION:
SE67: What do heterosexual and bisexual women think about when
they fantasize about men? I don't mean only very sexual
fantasies, I mean what are they thinking when they see an attractive
male? i.e. "He's so hot I could just..."?
POSTED APRIL 16, 1999
Wondering, closeted non-straight, Miami, FL
ANSWER 1:
"...rub him down with olive oil, garlic and lemon,
sprinkle him with coursely chopped basil and arugula and serve him up
on sourdough rye."
POSTED APRIL 17, 1999
Catherine H., bisexual female, 26
<tylik@eskimo.com>,
Woodinville, WA
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THE QUESTION:
SE66: To pregnant women and nursing mothers: Do you ever
suckle your significant others (husbands, boyfriends, etc.)?
POSTED APRIL 8, 1999
V. Morris
<lefeuvre@ndirect.co.uk>,
London UK
ANSWER 1:
I nursed my children (now 25 and 28) and yes, my husband
"nursed" as well. We both found it pleasurable and, well, titillating
(pardon the pun).
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Priscylla, female, WI
FURTHER NOTICE:
Are you serious? Any grown man who would want to nurse
like an infant obviously has issues. I would run, not walk, away from
that relationship.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
R.G., pregnant mother of two, Richmond, VA
FURTHER NOTICE 2:
The type of stimulation to the breast from an infant is
quite different from the sexual stimulation of a man sucking a
woman's breast. There is a particular technique necessary for the
child to draw milk from the breast. That is not to say that a man
cannot extract milk while stimulating the breast, but consistent flow
requires a technique, that at least in my experience, was not
remotely sexual. Nursing may be sensual at best, but suckling did not
elicit sexual pleasure for me. Some men are sexually aroused by their
mate's milk. Others are turned off. I nursed my youngest child 2 1/2
yrs. Her father intially was amused by occasionally drawing milk from
my breast. But the novelty wore off. Besides, when he did draw milk
it was not intentional. His primary concern was deriving pleasure
during love-making and giving pleasure to me. Prolonged nursing can
reduce sensation in the breasts. This was my experience. I found that
I needed extended, greater stimulation to experience arousal in this
area. When I stopped nursing, I did not fully regain the sensitivity
in the region that I had known prior to nursing. However, an
attentive lover can still give me pleasure here, provided he is open
to different degrees of stimulation focused in this area.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Zawadi, black female, 34
<aquarius9@hotmail.com>,
Detroit, MI
FURTHER NOTICE 3:
To R.G.: Lighten up. Many adult males (and females, I
might add) are curious about breast milk. I tasted it once. It is
sweet and warm, and that is all I needed to know. I will probably
never put it in my coffee. I am more interested in your reaction. Try
being a little less severe in your judgments. Live a little. You
might enjoy it.
POSTED APRIL 19, 1999
J.B., male
<slingblade.qconline.com>,
Quad Cities , IL
FURTHER NOTICE 4:
To R.G: A grown man who wants to suckle his partner's
breasts does not necessarily have "issues." My husband regularly
sucks my nipples for the sexual stimulation, and that turns me on as
well. We don't have children right now, but we when we do, my husband
won't stop suckling because our child is also suckling.
POSTED APRIL 21, 1999
Nancy, 32, female, TX
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THE QUESTION:
SE65: Am I unusual as a woman because I don't particularly
enjoy masturbation? I was celibate for a long time (not my choice)
and did it then out of necessity. That was OK. But now I'm married
and have no urge to masturbate.
POSTED MARCH 23, 1999
N.W., female, New York City metro area , NY
ANSWER 1:
Finally! I thought I was the only woman out there who
didn't enjoy masturbation. I've often talked about the subject with
my friends, male and female, and the consensus seems to be that I'm
either lying (about not enjoying it) or am doing something wrong
(technique). I have tried many different ways of masturbating, with
and without the aid of a vibrator, dildo or man, and nothing seems to
bring any kind of pleasure. So you are not alone.
POSTED APRIL 8, 1999
C.H.P., 28, single white female, Detroit, MI
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THE QUESTION:
SE64: Would it bother a man if he found a copy of Playgirl at
his girlfriend's house and she told him she used it to fantasize and
masturbate? In college, most guys had some form of porn in their
house, yet would get really offended when finding even a half-naked
picture of a man lying around my place. It seems to me that although
men love porn, they can't handle women lusting after men as sex
objects (especially when the men have big penises and beautiful
bodies). I think most men suffer from this "dish it out but can't
take it" syndrome. Any views on this?
POSTED MARCH 18, 1999
Janice, 32, female, Detroit , MI
ANSWER 1:
It certainly never would have bothered me, but I was never
one to hang up pictures of naked women in the first place. I can see
that it would be a little confusing: Women have consistently told men
they are wrong to objectify women sexually, so seeing a woman do the
same thing with men would look hypocritical. But why should it
matter? If a woman wants to look at naked men, all power to her.
POSTED MARCH 23, 1999
John K., 25, white male
<the-macs@geocities.com>,
Cranford , NJ
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THE QUESTION:
SE63: Do men who have female significant others masturbate
less than men who are single?
POSTED FEB. 10, 1999
Tim M., male, San Diego, CA
ANSWER 1:
I think that depends on the woman's ability to take care
of the man's sexual needs.
POSTED MARCH 23, 1999
Christopher D., 22, male
<ngc1977@hotmail.com>,
Arlington, TX
FURTHER NOTICE:
According to our human sexuality class, no. Through
personal experience, though, I think there is a small difference.
POSTED MARCH 23, 1999
Leah, female, psychology student, 27, Erie, Pa
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THE QUESTION:
SE62: How often is pubic hair color the same as head hair
color? Do red-haired people always have red pubic hair, and
blond-haired people always have blond pubic hair?
POSTED FEB. 10, 1999
Step, WA
ANSWER 1:
It's not always the same color (though it often is) and almost
never the same texture. It's kind of like men's beards - some people
will have straight red hair, and curly black pubes and beards, some
will be black or blonde all over.
POSTED FEB. 10, 1999
Catherine H., female,
<tylik@eskimo.com>,
Woodinville, WA
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THE QUESTION:
SE61: My girlfriend says that each orgasm she has actually is
a multiple wave of orgasms. She says she has five to 10 orgasms when
we have sex. Is it really possible for a woman to have upward of 40
orgasms in one session?
POSTED FEB. 5, 1999
Don Juan, male, San Diego, CA
ANSWER 1:
It is very possible to have 40 orgasms during one
intercourse session. Each orgasm is a series of 5 to 8 contractions
(each not being a distinct orgasm). Women have little to no
refraction time, so it is possible to go through the four stages of
sexual arousal very quickly to achieve another orgasm. The record
(according to Masters and Johnson) is 50 in one day, and that was by
a woman performing autoeroticism (masturbation).
POSTED FEB. 9, 1999
Leah, 27, psychology student, female
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