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Question:
Why is it OK for girls to be short, but guys get a tough
time?
POSTED 4/20/2003
David, Auckland, NA, New Zealand, Male, Mesg ID
4152003102539
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Question:
Is it just me or does it seem like each race tends to have a
very distinct odor? I've been in all-white environments and have
noticed that white people tend to smell like spoiled milk or hazelnut
coffee. Asians tend to have a noodle-like smell, and Indians smell
like musk and curry. Of course, I've heard that black people tend to
smell like cocoa butter, which is apparently revolting to someone
with different olfactory sensitivites.
POSTED 4/20/2003
RealityCheck, Philadelphia, PA, United States, 25, Male,
Black/African American, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID
4172003124352
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Question:
As a rule, I don't go around telling people that I am gay. I
keep a picture of my galpal on my desk at work, and I talk about us,
what we did over the weekend, etc., openly, and I let people connect
the dots themselves. However, since she has a name that could also be
a man's name, sometimes people get confused and I have to say, 'She's
a woman and we're gay.' Almost every time this happens, straight
people have the same response: 'That's OK' or 'I don't mind' or 'It
doesn't bother me.' Why do straight people feel the need to tell me
it's 'OK' that I'm gay? If I said I was Catholic or Portugese, I
don't think they would reassure me my religion or national origin
didn't bother them. How come no one ever just says, 'Oh' or 'I see'
or 'That's nice.'? I mean, it's not like I'm confessing a deep, dark
secret and hoping that I'll still be accepted.
POSTED 4/7/2003
Jean, Southern California, CA, United States, 38, Female,
Agnostic, White/Caucasian, Lesbian, Analyst, 4 Years of College,
Upper middle class, Mesg ID 42200312807
Responses:
Unfortunately, some people are just stupid. When they say 'that's
OK', they are really just trying to tell you that it's OK with them
and doesn't weird them out, though obviously it does a little or they
wouldn't be saying that. I think they are just trying way too hard to
tell you it doesn't matter to them and that they are politically
correct and cool. They probably just don't know any better. Maybe you
are the first lesbian they ever met and they are unsure how to
respond.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Libby, Los Angeles, CA, , 17, Female, Episcopalian, Black/African
American, Straight, student, High School Diploma, Upper class, Mesg
ID 48200360748
I hate to break it to you, but to the mainsteam world (not only
America), homosexuality is not 'nice.' They wouldn't want their kids
growing up to be gay. What happens is that people assume you know
this, and that's why they give you some reassurance, thinking they
will make you feel 'accepted' (they appreciate you). It's great that
you don't give thought to your gayness (you just live it). That's
fantastic, but get real. The gay movement has come a long way, but it
still has a long way to go before gays are seen as, say, Catholics or
Portuguese. So when people say 'it's OK,' understand that they know
that you know that being gay is something not accepted by the
mainstream world as yet.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Nelson A., Caracas, NA, Venezuela, 33, Male, Hispanic/Latino (may
be any race), Lawyer/Educator, Over 4 Years of College, Middle class,
Mesg ID 492003120311
These people are trying - although clearly without much panache -
to tell you that they're not like the homophobes you've probably had
to deal with in your life. While their delivery might lack diplomacy,
their intentions are good.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Emma, Los Angeles, CA, United States, Female, Mesg ID
49200315149
My typical response is 'oh, OK.' I'm bisexual and have no problem
with any sexual orientation that doesn't involve children or other
species. However, the reason people are stuck in the notion that they
have to reassure you that it is 'OK' with them that you're gay is
that often their experience dictates that they must do this. For
example, one of my best friends is a lesbian. My husband (who is
extremely nosy) asked her if she was bisexual, and she replied, 'No,
even worse.' Even worse? She's used to getting criticized by people
for her sexuality, and people like us see that, and feel the need in
future circumstances to assure people that we are not the
criticizers.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Jessica, Huntsville, TX, United States, 23, Female, Agnostic,
White/Caucasian, Bisexual, Graduate Student, Over 4 Years of College,
Middle class, Mesg ID 49200322356
From my experience, what you're talking about has to do with the
other person being uncomfortable about the subject and trying to be
polite. I'm a 50-year-old completely out lesbian who works on the
largest military installation in the United States. For about 10
years after I came out, (and I mean tore the door off the closet) I
got this response. For a while, I tended to be a little defensive,
until I figured out that a whole lot of people simply did not know
how to respond to my casually mentioning my spouse, or describing our
lives, and this was their way of saying, 'uh,um, really I don't know
what to say.' As I spent more time working with these folks on a
day-to-day basis, they figured out that it was OK to integrate me
into their daily work relationships; including conversations where we
agreed to disagree. Now, mind you, you will always have the knothead
that wants you to feel like a leper. But, I've found that; for the
most part, when I practice the golden rule, my coworkers get their
hackles up when someone tries to harrass me about my sexual
orientation. And, guess what, most of my coworkers are soldiers. Both
my partner of 20 years and I have the reputation of being 'mother
hens' in our workplaces. It has taken time, but most people we know
look at us as just another diverse part of the work force. Will we
ever be free of harrassment? I doubt it. But I've been working with
soldiers for 20 years and wouldn't dream of doing anything else;
especially at this moment. You may not realize it, but, in some
manner, whenever you mention your spouse to someone for the first
time, you are 'coming out' again. And coming out is like biting into
aluminum foil; it leaves a lasting impression. You are actually a
teacher for a sensitve and uncomfortable subject for many. For the
most part (except for the knotheads) treating people as you would
like to be treated will go a long way toward those around you
learning and practicing tolerance. Kudos to you for being up front
and direct; it takes courage.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Alma, Kempner, TX, United States, 50, Female, Methodist,
White/Caucasian, Lesbian, government contract worker, 4 Years of
College, Middle class, Mesg ID 49200380651
In this situation, what I have felt is that I already know, or
think I know, a co-worker and already have built up a level of
respect, trust, dependence and the ike for that individual. I am now
told something that is pretty personal, and a somewhat touchy subject
in the workplace. Not to say that you should not bring up the topic.
It is your right. But what happens in the mind of the receiver is
fear. Fear that we are going to say something stupid. We often do.
You obviously experienced that. Fear that we might look or act around
you differently, even though deep down we know how absolutely asinine
it is to do so. Fear of our own sexuality. Believe it or not, there
are a lot of confused folks out here who say they are straight but
don't even feel comfortable talking about sex at all. Fear of your
sexuality. Will my co-worker turn me gay with their gay vibe? (Laugh
here.) This is where ignorance comes in. People are still under the
impression that being gay is a choice like picking out a new suit,
and that one day they will wake up and, through your gay influence,
will want to try on that new suit and it will look great. Fear of
losing your respect, trust, dependence and the like if we think that
you think we are showing any of the above-listed fears. All of the
above hits us, at once, the second you say you're gay, and it scares
the sh** out of us that something is going to change between us. We
know that it won't. We fear that it might. So the only words of
confirmation that everything is still the same between us with this
new piece of data about you is, 'That's OK' or 'I don't mind' or 'It
doesn't bother me.' We are all human. Fallible at birth. Stupid till
death.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Robb, Cockeysville, MD, United States, 31, Male, White/Caucasian,
Straight, System Enginer, Over 4 Years of College, Upper middle
class, Mesg ID 4102003125124
Sometimes you meet people who wear their orientation on their
sleeve, and sometimes you meet people who wear their amazing capacity
for tolerance on their sleeve. Sometimes people can go so overboard
in showing their tolerance that it makes you want to throw up, but
it's better than the alternative.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Eric, Honolulu, HI, United States, Male, Mesg ID 4112003120846
A lot of people are very confused about how to react to gay people
because they get so many different messages about how they should see
it. The media and pop culture tell them that it's all good, but then
they have the extreme Christians telling them it's a horrible thing.
We are such a God-based country that we feel guilty no matter what
our view. My solution was to give the lifestyle a try. Now my view is
that people are people. Dating women was identical to dating men.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Cheryl K., San Diego, CA, United States, 29, Female, Christian,
White/Caucasian, Bisexual, homemaker, 2 Years of College, Upper
middle class, Mesg ID 411200324149
As a gay woman with a partner named Chris, I understand your
frustration. My understanding of this type of response is that it is
a knee-jerk reaction, albeit a kind one, to the fact that they think
we think they may freak out on us 'now that they know.' In other
words, they are reassuring us that 'it's OK' with them because lots
of people we tell might be immediately angry, disgusted or even
violent in their reactions (gay-bashing). They're letting us know
that they are not that kind of prejudiced, biased person. If you
could stand some advice, I would respond with something kind, like:
'Thanks. I think so, too.' Or even avoid pointing it out, but use
'she' a lot in the next few sentences before they can assume you're
talking about a guy. They'll get it, and you won't put them in the
position of having to reassure you at all.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Jane, Morton, IL, United States, Female, Lesbian, teacher, 4 Years
of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 411200352934
Because there is still prejudice against gays, people who are not
prejudiced feel they need to state their position - lest they be
suspected of being prejudiced.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Jerry S., New Britain, CT, United States, 54, Male, Jewish,
White/Caucasian, Straight, 4 Years of College, Upper middle class,
Mesg ID 414200351300
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Question:
Do most women find men in the military attractive, especially
when in their fatigues? If so, what might it have to do with?
POSTED 4/20/2003
Airman H., San Angelo, TX, United States,
<maxthecat.geo@yahoo.com>, 19, Male, White/Caucasian, Straight,
U.S. Air Force, Technical School, Lower middle class, Mesg ID
417200340710
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Question:
Women: Does size matter?
POSTED 4/20/2003
George L., Omaha, NE, United States, Male, Mesg ID
417200341421
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Question:
Why do Americans have this stereotype that people who are Asian
are of oriental origin (e.g. Chinese, Japanese, etc.)? This is a huge
misconception, especially if you consider that people from Russia and
India are also on the continent of Asia, and therefore are Asians
also. The Middle East is also part of the Asian continent. Chinese
aren't the only ones who can be labeled Asian. I identify myself as
'Asian,' considering I'm Indian in ethnic origin.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Chris H., New York, NY, United States, 22, Male, Asian,
psychologist, Over 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID
418200312400
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Question:
I have been fat essentially all my life, I'm currently size 26.
I yo-yo dieted for 20 years, realized I can't keep the weight off,
and stopped dieting. I have had many unpleasant comments about my
weight, for example, kids teasing me at school from age 7 to 12, as
an adult, men calling out 'fat bitch' at me in the street and making
vomit noises, colleagues at work expressing distaste at what I was
eating, and at fat people in general. In my therapy group I'm
discussing how I feel about my weight and appearance with others. I
would like to hear how people genuinely think and feel about fat
people and their appearance. I don't want politically correct and
'nice' replies, I want completely honest replies.
POSTED 12/8/2002
Jenny, Wellington, NA, New Zealand, 37, Female, Agnostic,
White/Caucasian, Straight, Librarian, Technical School, Lower middle
class, Mesg ID 128200274531
Responses:
I don't hate fate people, but what I do hate is when fat people make
their personal weight problem my problem, by sitting - or should I
say squeezing - next to me in a seat that is clearly too small for
them, thus making my commute to and from work miserable. Every time
the bus or train slows down, that fat person puts all their weight on
me, which is not good for my back, or my clothes, which usually end
up damp and wrinkled on the side where they sat. Other than that, I
have no problem with fat people.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Rhonda O., Laurelton, NY, United States,
<Rhonda_Outlaw@ars.aon.com>, 41, Female, Lutheran,
Black/African American, Account Representative, 2 Years of College,
Middle class, Mesg ID 417200351452
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Question:
Is it me or does it seem like black people are less open to
listening to what is considered 'white music' ( i.e: punk rock,
country, classical music) than white people, who openly support
genres like R n' B, reggae and hip-hop? And it doesn't just apply to
music. It extends into sports. You'll often see white kids following
basketball and idolizing super-stars like Michael Jordan, but you'll
never see a black kid with posters of white hockey players on his
bedroom wall. It seems like black people are less likely to admire or
glorify white entertainers, espeically if these entertainers are
white males. What do others think?
POSTED 4/7/2003
B.V., Toronto, Ontario, NA, Canada, Male, Catholic,
White/Caucasian, Straight, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID
442003112132
Responses:
If black kids don't like hockey, then why are their black (or
partially black) hockey players in the NHL?
POSTED 4/20/2003
Cynthia, Toronto, Ontario, NA, Canada, 23, Female, Catholic,
Asian, Over 4 Years of College, Upper middle class, Mesg ID
47200341233
So how many black kids' bedrooms have you been in? And how do you
know what their parents, friends of the same race, etc. listen to on
their radios, or whose CDs they are buying? I would like to read this
survey you have apparently taken. Growing up in the inner city of New
York, I speak from personal knowledge that lots of kids' parents
couldn't afford the equipment needed to play hockey or take swimming,
tennis and golf lessons. We're open to communities offering these
sports, but have they always been open to us? Think about this: Hip
Hop music is basically like punk rock, just with better rhythm.
POSTED 4/20/2003
anonymous, Brooklyn, NY, United States, Mesg ID 472003112651
No, it just seems that way. There are a lot of blacks who listen
to white music, just as there are whites who listen to black music.
How do you know there are no white hockey stars in black kids'
bedrooms? Do you go to every single bedroom in America?
POSTED 4/20/2003
VirginQueen, Ft. Payne, AL, United States, Mesg ID 410200383429
To me, music is music. If I like it, I like it. I gave up
believing that black folks have the monopoly on vocal talent and
dancing ability some years ago, and as long as I can understand the
lyrics to the song and the beat doesn't make my head hurt, I will
gladly embrace it. So along with my huge collection of R&B I have
Eric Clapton, Bread, Norah Jones, Alanis Morrisette, Coorgan and
others. I'm big on lyrics, and white folks have written some of the
best 'black' songs ever. As far as hockey goes, there are a lot of
financial implications that make it difficult for poor blacks to
participate in it. One has to first know how to ice skate, have a
decent pair of skates, live within a few miles of an ice skating rink
and have enough money for all the equipment. It is so much easier to
find three or four friends, put on some shorts and gym shoes and play
basketball with a makeshift rim. The only thing that can't be
compromised is that the ball has to be airtight and grippable.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Michael F., Chicago, IL, United States,
<masterghen@yahoo.com>, 25, Male, Baptist, Black/African
American, Straight, Administrative, Over 4 Years of College, Lower
middle class, Mesg ID 416200314716
You're right, there are many 'white' things that blacks ignore,
but there's white stuff we have adopted, like European clothing,
artificially straightened hair, and white languages like English,
Spanish and French. But in music, country, classical and punk have
not really affects blacks the way black-American music affects Asia,
Europe, Africa and South America. Blacks have always preferred
African music styles and have evolved them into new styles (like
hip-hop, R&B, reggae, samba, etc.) that are now highly
commercialized by the white-dominated electronic media. And when it
comes to competition, black performers have had to compete against
white performers who perform black music and who eventually 'take
over' the white fans, e.g. Elvis Presley, Eminem, Backstreet Boys,
'N' Sync and Britney Spears. White male athletes who seek adoration
from black (and white) fans have to earn it by coming up with the
best athletic performances and careers. Regarding ice hockey,
unfortunately it's a sport that few young black athletes have in
their communities and schools, so they don't see themselves making a
living at it; consequently the black fan base and participation are
small. And hey, don't be so confused about more white kids having
Michael Jordan posters than blacks kids having, say, Wayne Gretzky
posters. The reason is simple: Jordan is cuter!
POSTED 4/20/2003
Bella, Washington, DC, United States, 31, Female, Christian,
Afro-Caribbean, Straight, Administrative Assistant, Technical School,
Middle class, Mesg ID 417200335032
First, I don't think that all blacks are less open to listening to
punk rock, classical,or country. I do not believe all whites support
R&B, reggae and rap. I find many people of all races who are for
and against the genres you mentioned. (I also have an aunt and mother
who are avid country fans, my aunt having more than 300 albums.) I
have seen children of all races idolize Michael Jordan. I have yet to
make the acquaintance of anyone who chooses not to glorify someone
based on race or gender. Because I don't know any whites who listen
to reggae, and I constantly hear Bill O'Reilly detesting rap, should
I assume that all whites do not support what you call 'black music.'?
Music is sacred and should not be boxed in because we have an
uncontrollable urge to assign race to every aspect of society.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Anna, Providence, RI, United States,
<LiaTheAngel@yahoo.com>, 18, Female, Catholic, Straight,
Student, High School Diploma, Upper middle class, Mesg ID
4172003113429
Good question. My opinion is that certain types of music have a
more universal appeal than others. It also has to do with exposure.
If black kids aren't exposed to punk rock or heavy metal, how will
they like it? it isn't played on the stations they listen to, but hip
hop and R&B are played on stations that white people listen to. I
have had this discussion quite a few times, and we come up with the
same ideas. Certain elements of black culture are often envied and
copied. White women tan to get darker skin, they get collagen
treatments to have fuller lips. Rock n' roll was created by black
people and stolen by the likes of Elvis and others. Same for Jazz,
which is now considered the only classical American music. It seems
like while black people were once reviled (and are still pretty
disliked and pre-judged), we are seen as great sources of
entertainment. White parents don't want their kids dating us, but
they are allowed to listen to our music. Why do you think so many
people love Eminem? Because there is finally a white boy doing the
music that white kids love so much, and they finally have someone to
identify with racially. Being black is seen as being 'cool' or
'down,' so our music is universal. Everyone wants to be 'down.' As
for sports, it is again exposure. A predominantly white school is
more likely to have a hockey team than a black school. Most schools
that are predominantly black barely have money for books, much less a
hockey team. Black people look for people to identify with, being
numerical minorities. Many of us didn't care about golf before Tiger
Woods because we had no one to identify with. Same for tennis before
Venus and Serena. Young black kids look for role models, and when
they look to sports, the sports with the most people they can
identify with on the surface are basketball and maybe football. Many
black people are raised to see things in color, whereas many white
people are raised to be colorblind. Race is always on the forefront
of the mind of a black person, whereas it might not be for a white
person. So a white person may just vibe to the music or love the
sport, while a black person is looking for identifiers.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Michelle, Jersey City, NJ, United States, 24, Female,
Black/African American, Straight, Non Profit, 4 Years of College,
Lower middle class, Mesg ID 4192003110018
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Question:
A group of black men I work with have recently been in an
argument at work with several women over what they describe as 'nosey
black women who are always trying to get in your business.' They
don't seem to be talking about any person specifically, just in
general. What's up with this?
POSTED 4/7/2003
Alma, Kempner, TX, United States, 49, Female, Methodist,
White/Caucasian, Lesbian, government employee, Over 4 Years of
College, Middle class, Mesg ID 328200370842
Responses:
I'm not sure what you mean by when you say, 'What's up with this.'
What's up with what? A few people got into an altercation about loud,
nosey women. The emphasis on 'black' was unnecessary, because loud
women come in all races. My older sister majors in public relations
and deals with people of all race 24/7, and she notes that all women
can be loud and will be nosey.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Niecey M., Brooklyn, NY, United States, Mesg ID 492003103835
I've found the opposite: that white people usually are the ones
who feel the need to stare into people's face while they have private
conversations, and look over people's shoulders and grin sheepishly
when you catch them. As if it's cute.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Deedee, Brooklyn, NY, United States, 17, Female, Black/African
American, student, Less than High School Diploma, Upper middle class,
Mesg ID 4122003111702
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Question:
Why are some people drawn to fringe religions and cults? Even a
dear friend admitted to belonging to a cultish Christian group for
reasons he could not explain. As an atheist, I try to understand it,
but these people seem to need to suspend reality in the comfort of
religion. I was brought up in Catholic schools but never could
embrace religion. I felt like I saw it for what it was.
POSTED 4/7/2003
Andrew, Melbourne, NA, Australia, 30, Male, Atheist, Straight,
I.T. Professional, Technical School, Middle class, Mesg ID
329200332654
Responses:
The need to believe in something is nearly universal; there are not,
to my knowledge, any societies that are completely irreligious. To
put it most uncharitably, the idea that god(s) control the universe
keeps us from having to deal with the idea that the universe is
completely random and life totally without meaning. As for cults and
fringe religions, they tend to be extremely authoritarian and
restrictive, and that appeals to some people. Like being tucked into
bed, the constraints are comforting. Again, I'm being very
uncharitable - in the spirit of your question.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Jerry S., New Britain, CT, United States, 54, Male, Jewish,
White/Caucasian, Straight, 4 Years of College, Upper middle class,
Mesg ID 414200352000
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Question:
If a black foster parent has a white foster child, should they
go to extra lengths to ensure that the child has some access to what
is commonly thought of as 'white' music, movies, etc.,if the main
family and church experiences will be predominantly black? Or will
the kids get enough exposure from outside sources so there's no need
to seek out more experiences?
POSTED 4/7/2003
Katherine, Winston-Salem, NC, United States, 46, Female,
White/Caucasian, social worker, Middle class, Mesg ID
442003100526
Responses:
Interesting question since it is widely assumed that white parents
adopting a black child have an obligation to expose her to
African-American culture. Seems to me that the best answer on either
side would be for the family to go to integrated gatherings,
churches, etc., and to have friends of various colors so the child
can experience people of different races mixing without tension. Most
of the children up for adoption or foster care in my state are black,
and I have often wondered what the social climate would be like (for
both myself and the child) if I were to adopt a black child.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Theo, Athens, GA, United States, 33, Female, White/Caucasian,
Straight, 4 Years of College, Lower middle class, Mesg ID
49200330915
First, the situation you speak of is very rare. However, it has
happened. So, to answer your question, I would say no, because whites
in this country generally don't identify with a particular culture,
as the mainstream society pretty much flows with their ideals. Why
would a black person need to educate a white child on their heritage
when they will learn about it every day in school? When they look at
the television or other forms of media, they will also see people of
their own race. Whites in America are the accepted culture, so there
is no need to teach a white child about it. However, if the child's
parents came from a non-American background from a culture whose
lifestyle was vastly different from Americans, it would be important
they had a sense of who they were. For example, what if the child
were from Russia? Even if the skin color is the same, culturally
things won't add up, and for the sake of a healthier identity, the
child should learn about his or her heritage. Yet, I would think this
would apply to black or white parents, as this situation would be a
matter of cultural identity, more so than racial.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Kristina, Washington, DC, United States, 22, Female, Christian,
Black/African American, Straight, Transcriber, 2 Years of College,
Middle class, Mesg ID 4102003121231
Look around. Everything is oriented toward white people. There is
no way that child could escape his or her white culture.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Virgin Queen, Ft. Payne, AL, United States, Mesg ID
410200383118
I think it's important that black families who adopt white
children make sure the children are comfortable with all aspects of
who they are, but I don't think the imperative is as strong to make
sure that the child has access to white/European culture or cultures,
because in this society, it is impossible NOT to be exposed to them.
'White' is the default.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Jennifer, St. Paul, MN, United States, 32, Female, Christian,
Black/African American, Straight, Non-Profit, 4 Years of College,
Middle class, Mesg ID 415200373408
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Question:
Why do so many people have a problem with uncircumcised guys,
when that's the way we're born and it's completely healthy and
natural?
POSTED 4/7/2003
Tony C., Flagler Beach, FL, United States, 32, Male, Agnostic,
White/Caucasian, Gay, production superintendent, High School Diploma,
Lower middle class, Mesg ID 43200320405
Responses:
I think this is a bit of an American thing. In Britain, for instance,
because many men are uncut, it is not seen as strange. My boyfriend
is uncircumcised, and I actually prefer it, because it supposedly
makes men last longer. It is only a problem if they don't wash under
the foreskin often enough.
POSTED 4/20/2003
Anne, London, NA, United Kingdom, 20, Female, student, 2 Years of
College, Mesg ID 492003115819
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