Best of the Week
of July 21, 2002

Best of Week Archives

Here are the most intriguing cross-cultural exchanges either begun or advanced during the week of July 21, 2002, as selected by Y? These postings, as well as "Best of the Week" entries from previous weeks, also can be found by accessing Y?'s database using the search form, or, in the case of answers posted before April 24, 1999, in the Original Archives (all questions from the Original Archives have been entered into the database as well). In the Original Archives, as well as in the database, you will find questions that have received answers, as well as questions still awaiting responses. You are encouraged to answer any questions relevant to your demographic background, as well as to ask any provocative question you desire. Answers posted are not necessarily meant to represent the views of an entire demographic group, but can provide a window into the insights of an individual from that group.

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Question:

Why is it that Corporate America seems to have given the edge to hiring minorities over white males? Everywhere you look, there is a disproportionate number of minorities being represented by Corporate America.

POSTED 7/21/2002

Adam R., North Chicago, IL, United States, 42, Male, Catholic, White/Caucasian, Bisexual, Accountant, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 720200262820

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Question:

A classmate told me white people's butts are so flat because during slavery they sat on them all day doing nothing, while black people worked all the time. I agree, but I want to know if any white or black people have ever heard of this.

POSTED 7/22/2002

Lisa, Brooklyn, NY, United States, 16, Female, Catholic, Black/African American, Straight, Less than High School Diploma, Middle class, Mesg ID 722200295009


Responses:
What I have heard has nothing to do with the flatness of white people's butts, but rather why they look flat compared to black people's. As I understand it, the larger black butt is due to the fact it was used as a water storage location needed to sustain life in the harsh hot climates of Africa. It is left over from that. With respect to white butts: yeah, I guess white people have had more opportunity to sit down and work while the labors of slaves was that of hard field work, very physical in nature. Also, not all whites have flat butts. It just depends on the genetic background.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Matthew, New York, NY, United States, 43, Male, Middle class, Mesg ID 7232002102811

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Talk about a blatantly provocative post. I assume you are aware that the majority of white people didn't own slaves? That the majority were poor and worked their asses off as much as anyone else? Obviously, having their freedom, their situation was infinitely better than that of enslaved people, but please, you really think that every single Caucasian in the States at that time was a wealthy landowner whose only exercise was to occasionally arise from his chair to beat his slaves? You do neither yourself nor those who share the same heritage any favors by spouting ill-informed revisionist 'history' around the place.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Iteki, Smalltown, NA, Sweden, 26, Female, Recovering Catholic, White/Caucasian, Lesbian, 2 Years of College, Lower middle class, Mesg ID 7232002110958


How did racist tripe like this appear on Y? Forum? I've had albeit divisive but nonetheless genuine questions 'moderated' out, and yet overtly provocative racism like this passes muster? Why?

POSTED 7/23/2002

Blammo, Ipsilate, MI, United States, Mesg ID 7232002111050

Director's Note: As our long-time users are aware, Y? occasionally posts submissions that fall outside our general guidelines, to keep all of us taking part in this experiment honest. Rather than risking our users (and us) becoming lulled into the false sensibility that everyone submits "perfect" questions or is ready to engage others in a civil manner, we aren't averse to shaking things up a bit from time to time with a submission such as this. Usually, questions that aren't posted are either repetitive, or simply have not been viewed by the (lone) Director, as Y? receives hundreds of submissions per week.


Are you trying to live up to the ignorant black stereotype? You sure seem to make a good argument for it.That is like saying your lips are so big from sucking on watermelon seeds and chicken bones.

POSTED 7/23/2002

William, Columbia, SC, United Kingdom, 38, Male, Methodist, White/Caucasian, Straight, sales, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 722200230746


C'mon Lisa. You can't possibly be serious. I have never heard of this theory before, neither in earnest nor in distasteful jest. Even if the greater likelihood of white people to have 'flat' bottoms could be researched and quantified well enough to be called a biological fact, the evolution of such a trait would have taken thousands of years, at least. So the slavery idea is impossible as well as silly.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Jennifer, St. Paul, MN, United States, 31, Female, Christian, Black/African American, Straight, Non-Profit, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 722200243032


Surely that is a joke (and on a surface level, a bit funny). Only a small percentage of 'whites' have ever owned slaves (I'd venture to say, historically speaking, more had probably been on the slavery end; just look at early European history). Hell, German companies have paid reparations for using Polish slave labor during World War II, and I don't see any difference in the size of their butts. So that doesn't make a whole lot sense. Also, slavery is not entirely a 'white' vs. 'black' issue; history is awash with stories of people enslaving each other, of all cultures and races.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Vittrad, Chicago, IL, United States, 35, Female, Christian, White/Caucasian, Straight, Over 4 Years of College, Upper middle class, Mesg ID 722200250557


I am a black female and am embarrassed by the tone of your question. It is so ignorant and racist. I'm sure you already know there are many differences between the races and that Europeans and Africans have different body structures, hair textures, etc. However, your question reads more like slander than a question seeking an intelligent response.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Alea, New York, NY, United States, 22, Female, Christian, Straight, student, Lower middle class, Mesg ID 722200273450


Lisa, That is THE dumbest thing I've ever heard in my life. You are just mocking whites, this site, and showing what an incredible waste of resources a good education is on you. Spare your teachers. Drop out and go get pregnant now. Maybe your children will redeem you.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Jesse R., New york, NY, United States, Mesg ID 722200282237


I have to admit, I've never heard of this, though it did give me a giggle. Take my word for it; I've seen many white women with enormous rears. And by the way; not all whites have slavery in their past. My family, though white, were poorly treated servants. Slaves, no. But they certainly didn't sit on their keesters. Just thought I would clarify.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Laura, Small Town, AZ, United States, 24, Female, Christian, White/Caucasian, Straight, Technical School, Lower middle class, Mesg ID 7222002113218


If this were true - that a way of life 300 years ago would manifest as physical changes - then wouldn't African Americans' brains be underdeveloped, considering the lack of 'work' their brains were required to do during slavery? The statement could also be reversed - that white people work so hard that they burn off all excess body fat, whereas African Americans do so little work that they retain all of their body fat. These, of course, are riduculous statements, to mirror you ridiculous question

POSTED 7/23/2002

Jay, New York, NY, United Kingdom, Female, White/Caucasian, Middle class, Mesg ID 723200272433

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Question:

What is the difference between a bisexual and a homosexual (who doesn't find women attractive)? And why are some homosexuals or bisexuals cross-dressers, while some are Mr. Universe contestants?

POSTED 5/6/2002

Jack P., New York, NY, United States, Male, Mesg ID 54200260851


Responses:
Why are there heterosexuals? Find out the reason for one and I think we will find the answer for all. Kinsey came out with a study that gave a scale from Heterosexual at 0 to Homosexual at 6. Most of us are bisexual, with some of us not being able to function with a male if we are totally straight (a 0) or with a female if we are totally gay (a 6). Everyone else falls somewhere in the other groups, with 4 being equally attracted to both. You may be asking what is the difference between a bisexual in a relationship with a guy and a homosexual. The simple answer is nothing. There is another scale that deals with emotional issues and really is better but too complicated to get into here. Too often we only think of the sex act as determining our orientations. Again, you forgot to ask why are some heterosexuals cross-dressers. A cross-dresser is a person who enjoys wearing the clothes of the opposite sex. Common use, though, is for a man who enjoys dressing in women's clothes since the reverse is accepted. The reason can be for sexual or emotional reasons. It has been estimated that 1of every 48 U.S. males is a cross-dresser. These individuals can be any sexual orientation, although most (about 90 percent) of all cross-dressers are heterosexual. The main difference between cross-dressers and transsexuals is that cross-dressers are satisfied (happy) being male.

POSTED 7/21/2002

Bo, Shreveport, LA, United States, Male, White/Caucasian, Gay, Cattle, Rental Property, Over 4 Years of College, Mesg ID 721200214448

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Question:

To men: Why do some of you make an attempt to cover your balding heads with a 'comb-over'? This style does not fool anyone, and you all would look much more attractive if you would get a decent haircut. My current gentleman friend reacted like I asked him to cut off his you-know-what when I suggested he would look much better if he changed his style.

POSTED 7/19/2002

Jo, Ft. Wayne, IN, United States, 53, Female, White/Caucasian, Straight, Programmer, 2 Years of College, Upper middle class, Mesg ID 7192002121026

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Question:

To women: How would you show a male that you wouldn't mind talking to him if he decided to approach you?

POSTED 7/16/2002

Charles, Davis, IN, United States, 19, Male, White/Caucasian, Straight, student, 2 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 714200233540

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Question:

I would like to understand the caste system in South Asia (India, Pakistan, Bangladash). I have come across numerous references in books referring to Brahmin, etc., and just wanted a better understanding.

POSTED 6/26/2002

Kenya E., Atlanta, GA, United States, 25, Female, Christian, Black/African American, Straight, Over 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 6262002120414


Responses:
For India there are or were primarily four races. From 'highest' to lowest are Brahmin, Kshatriya, Vaisya and Sudra. The caste without a caste were called untouchables.

POSTED 7/22/2002

Chetan, Philadelphia, PA, United States, Mesg ID 7222002121455

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Question:

Why do so many nail salons have Korean manicurists, managers and owners?

POSTED 7/16/2002

Tracy, Edmond, OK, United States, <lavenderlilycuao@hotmail.com>, 30, Female, White/Caucasian, Straight, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 715200234532


Responses:
I noticed the same thing. So I asked my nail technician. She is Vietnamese. She indicated that the Vietnam community tries to stick together. Since she did not have strong language skills when she arrived, she went with what she knew: beauty care. Also, many times families pool their money together to buy a business and employ relatives. It keeps them all employed and they own something of their own. Most shop owners take great pride in the fact that they own and run their own shops. I have had better service at a small Asian-owned shop compared to a large 'spa' atmosphere. The girls at the small shops try to get to know you because it is your repeat visits that keep their business going.

POSTED 7/23/2002

Kathy, Pasadena, CA, United States, 32, Female, Catholic, American Indian/Mexican, Straight, advertising, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID 7222002101904

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