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Here are the most intriguing cross-cultural exchangeseither begun or advanced during the week of Nov. 3, 2002, as selectedby Y? These postings, as well as "Best of the Week" entries fromprevious weeks, also can be found by accessing Y?'s database usingthe search form , or, in the case ofanswers posted before April 24, 1999, in the Original Archives (all questionsfrom the Original Archives have been entered into thedatabase aswell). In the Original Archives, as well as in the database, you willfind questions that have received answers, as well as questions stillawaiting responses. You are encouraged to answer any questionsrelevant to your demographic background, as well as to ask anyprovocative question you desire. Answers posted are not necessarilymeant to represent the views of an entire demographic group, but canprovide a window into the insights of an individual from thatgroup. 
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Question:

Why do women say you should never wear a thong on an airplaneflight?

POSTED 11/8/2002

Ridley S., Chambersburg, PA, United States, 22, Male, Agnostic,White/Caucasian, Mesg ID 1142002112431

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Question:

I would like to hear constructive comments from Muslims on theRev. Jerry Falwell's recent TV interview in which he called theprophet Mohammed 'a terrorist ... a violent man, a man of war' andsaid 'Jesus set the example for love, as did Moses, and I thinkMohammed set an opposite example.'

POSTED 11/8/2002

Ridley S., Chambersburg, PA, United States, 22, Male, Agnostic,White/Caucasian, Mesg ID 1152002122547

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I work in the financial industry as a loan officer. Over thepast few years I've noticed a trend among younger people: they don'tseem to care one bit about their credit. It is very rare that I see agood credit report for anyone under 30. Most have over-extendedthemselves to the point of bankruptcy, maxing out more credit cardsthan they could ever handle. They gladly accept extremelyhigh-interest credit cards and auto loans from lenders who fullyexpect them to go into default. I am interested in hearing from thoseunder 30 about why this is the case, and if they realize the problemsthey are causing themselves in the future when it comes time to buy ahome.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Mike B., Santa Cruz, CA, United States, 41, Male, Humanist,White/Caucasian, Gay, Finance, Over 4 Years of College, Middle class,Mesg ID 115200233751

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Question:

I'm 19 and went to a dermatologist recently. He said that if Idon't use Rogaine I will be obviously bald, at first glance, in 3 to5 years (I'm balding in the front, not 'crown balding'). That stuffis a big hassle and a pain in the butt to use, but I can put up withit if I have to. But do girls (specifically those 17-25) really careabout baldness at my age? Can I let myself go bald?

POSTED 11/8/2002

Ian C., Broken Arrow, OK, United States, 19, Male, Christian,White/Caucasian, Straight, student, 2 Years of College, Lower middleclass, Mesg ID 116200263841

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Question:

From my previous experiences with people from my high school, Ihave gotten the impression that some atheists dislike Christians.When I was a senior in high school, I used to have a small 'JesusFish' on the back of my car. One day after school, two atheistjuniors who were in band with me were ripping the fish off my carwhen I went out to the parking lot. I have no problem with atheists,and I would like to know if they have a problem with Christians. WhenI started dating my boyfriend nine months ago, he was anagnostic-turned-atheist, so I obviously didn't think less of himbecause of his beliefs, and the same goes for his views on me and myreligion. He even told me that he admired my unquestioning faith in aGod I cannot scientifically prove.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Ali, Iowa City, IA, United States, 18, Female, Lutheran,White/Caucasian, Straight, College Student, High School Diploma,Middle class, Mesg ID 1182002123926

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Why is that a lot of 'black' Hispanic people deny their Africanancestry? Why have they bought into the European myth that beingblack is bad? Usually, the first thing that comes out of their mouthsis 'I'm not black. I'm Hispanic' or 'I'm Dominican or Puerto Rican.'Don't they realize that Hispanic is a culture and Puerto Rican is anationality that does not desinate a specific race of peaople? Whydon't you realize that you are apart of the Diaspora (if you knowwhat that means) and that the only difference is that my ancestorspicked cotton and tobacco and learned to speak English, and yourancestors picked sugar cane and indigo and learned to speak Spanish?They all came from Africa.

POSTED 11/8/2002

L. Wilson, Tallahassee, FL, United States,<dwanjuan@hotmail.com>, 29, Male, Black/African American,Straight, Behavioral Specialist, Over 4 Years of College, Lowermiddle class, Mesg ID 118200275709

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Question:

Why do black people eat so much cheese doodles and drink grapesoda?

POSTED 2/7/2001

Toast, Stratford, CT, United States, 24, Male, Catholic,White/Caucasian, Straight, student, Over 4 Years of College, Mesg ID2701113455


Responses:

Blacks eat so many Cheese Doodles and Grape Soda because they havea love affair with salt, which Cheeze Doodles have a lot of. Theyalso have a love affair with variety when it comes to soft drinks.They love many different flavors: orange, grape, cherry, etc. Justlike the salt love affair, there's the sugar love affair as well.Those flavors are very high in sugar.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Illuminate, New York, NY, United States, Male, Mesg ID1142002103048


Aw, geez! I'm not familiar with that as being a generalcharacteristic of the black community. I likes me some cold Diet Cokeand pretzels or popcorn myself. I also likes me plenty of vegetablesand fruits, instead of sweet foods.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Denise, Houston, TX, United States, Female, Black/AfricanAmerican, Mesg ID 4172001125446


Do you want us to believe that you don't know any white people whoeat cheese doodles and drink grape soda? I don't know any blacks whodo, but I have been to many homes of whites who serve cheese doodlesas snacks. What's your point?

POSTED 11/8/2002

Elaine, Newport News, VA, United States, Female, 4 Years ofCollege, Mesg ID 21301110826


I cannot tell you why black people like Cheez doodles or grapesoda. Including the above, there are certain snacks that do appeal toour palate: Bar-B-Que Chips, Chic-o-sticks, Lemonheads and other sourcandies, and cinnamon candies. Beverages - Kool-Aid (cherry,strawberry), Tahitian treats, orange and strawberry sodas. We alsolike Texas Pete hot sauce on our food (especially fried fish andchicken). This does not apply to all black people, but for all I knowit is applicable.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Val, Norfolk, VA, United States, <vsaun93167@aol.com>, 40,Female, Black/African American, Straight, 4 Years of College, Middleclass, Mesg ID 2120161514

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Question:

I gave up on both boxers and briefs several months ago, sincethese days I prefer to not wear underwear at all. I find thatunderwear is redundant and pointless, and the lack of it provides farmore comfort and freedom. I live in southern California, so I have noneed for thermal underwear, either. Why do the rest of you guyscontinue to wear underwear? Why haven't you discovered the joys of'going commando'? Are there any other guys out there of likemind?

POSTED 1/2/2000

Dan, Los Angeles area, CA, United States, 21, Male, Christian,Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), student/dishwasher, Lower middleclass, Mesg ID 12221999105746


Responses:

I wear briefs for the same reason stated by the last respondent,and because I enjoy the creature comforts of the classic whites.Besides, how would I continue to sell underwear if I didn't wearunderwear?

POSTED 11/8/2002

Carlos P., Tulsa, OK, United States,<hapster1@earthlink.net>, 40, Male, Catholic, Hispanic/Latino(may be any race), Gay, Communications, 2 Years of College, Uppermiddle class, Mesg ID 1162002101705


As Elaine on Seinfeld said, 'I don't know how you guys walk aroundwith those things!' Dan, I don't understand why you would want yourgenitals to flop around unencumbered, especially running. Anotherquestion while we're on the subject of male genitals: Why are menalways playing 'pocket pool'? It's disgusting. Do you have to keepchecking to see if it's still there, or is a masturbatory thing?

POSTED 11/8/2002

Baffled female, Springtown, TX, United States, 46, Female,White/Caucasian, Mesg ID 37200064620


I prefer briefs for the same reasons mentioned by both Brian andDave. I never could get used to the idea of "free-balling," so notwearing underwear or running free in boxers just didn't seemappropriate for me. Besides, I like keeping the boys in line. Iprefer the comfort, styling and secure feeling I get from myall-American classic cotton whites. Besides, I think they look great!

POSTED 11/8/2002

Carlos M., Los Angeles, CA, United States,<carlosmichael@onebox.com>, 38, Male, Catholic, Hispanic/Latino(may be any race), Bisexual, Sr. Administrative Aide, 2 Years ofCollege, Middle class, Mesg ID 962000111209


I think you are right, mate. I intend to 'let it all hang free'for the next few days. I reckon the reason I get sweaty in the firstplace is that I have that extra layer of clothing under my trousers.I will report back if I turn out to be a successful convert. P.S.Doesn't it make you horny when you find out a bloke doesn't wearunderwear?

POSTED 11/8/2002

Mawk, North Norwich, NA, United Kingdom,<mawk2000@hotmail.com>, 29, Male, Gay, HGV Driver, Mesg ID125200073156


I live in Cape Town, where the climate is very similar to SouthernCalifornia's. I also see little point in wearing boxers. Commando isthe most comfortable way to dress and is the style for real men. LikeBrad Pitt, David Carradine and many others, I find the freedomfantactic. Besides, the chicks just love it.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Peter F., Cape Town, NA, South Africa, Male, Mesg ID 526200092602

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Question:

How do I tell my parents I don't want to be a Jehovah'sWitness? They raised me in that religion all my life, and the lastfive years I've been questioning it and can't get straight answers. Iconsider myself an atheist and know it will hurt them as if I toldthem I was gay or something (which I'm not). Any suggestions on howto break the silence will be appreciated greatly.

POSTED 10/27/2002

Kim, Upstate, NY, United States, 17, Female, Atheist,Black/African American, Straight, student, Less than High SchoolDiploma, Upper class, Mesg ID 1025200243902


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As someone who told his family the same thing, I can say the bestway to do it is to just get it over with. My family is a differentreligion than yours, but I was just as anxious. If you just tell themand get it out in the open, it'll likely not be a big deal after awhile.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Ben, Morgantown, WV, United States, 25, Male, Atheist,White/Caucasian, Straight, salesperson, Over 4 Years of College,Lower middle class, Mesg ID 1028200275800


Being a gay son of missionaries, this was perhaps the hardestthing in my life to do: to tell my parents that I did not want tobelong to a religion that considered my unchosen lifestyle a sin. Theonly way to do it is to flat-out tell them and to be prepared to giveyour reasons why you do not want to be a part of their religion. Theywill be dissapointed and may be for a long time, but the bonds ofparent/child love will hopefully overcome their grief, and they willaccept you and your reasoning despite their beliefs.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Mike B., Santa Cruz, CA, United States, 41, Male, Humanist,White/Caucasian, Gay, Finance, Over 4 Years of College, Upper middleclass, Mesg ID 1031200235302


Part of your parents raising you as a Witness should have involvedgiving you the opportunity to think for yourself. As you know, freechoice is a gift from Jehovah. The best way to tell them is to be upfront. Explain your feelings and the reasons for your choice. (Areyou baptized? And if so, have you had a change in heart?) It isbetter to tell them now than to have them find out some other way orfor some other reason. Keep in mind, they have brought you up basedon their beliefs, which includes a responsibility to inculcate thetruth into you. They may feel they have failed you. In the end, justmake sure you are making this decision not out of a momentary feelingbut out of your heart. That's what Jehovah looks at. Adolescence is atime when we all question most things in our life. In the meantime,I'm worried that you wrote you haven't been getting straight answersto questions. If you feel your parents aren't being straight withyou, perhaps you could talk with someone in your congregation whomight be comfortable answering some of those questions. And, if you'dlike, I would be willing to answer any that you have.

POSTED 11/8/2002

Stacey, Ellicott City, MD, United States,<stacey@gulumki.com>, 30, Female, Jehovahs Witness,White/Caucasian, 4 Years of College, Middle class, Mesg ID116200271745

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