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Dare to Ask: More tests don't mean more money for doctors 
Dare to Ask: A Middle Easterner is not always an Arab
Dare to Ask: Do gay men typically not date 'out of their league'?

Dare to Ask: Are slippers and bare feet in public race-specific?
Dare to Ask: Are the media too harsh on Catholicism?
Dare to Ask: Muscling in on the rules of attraction
Dare to Ask: If grandpa wants to talk golf, let him
Dare to Ask: Young folks can feel old when suffering from arthritis

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Dare to Ask: Why are Walmart shoppers so different from Target shoppers?
Dare to Ask: Why are white people so fussy about good grammar?
Dare to Ask: Why do some Latinos decorate with stuffed animals?
Dare to Ask: How can parent put stop to child's misguided racial notion?
Dare to Ask: Interracial dating isn’t for everyone

Dare to Ask: Polite, old-fashioned men a rare breed?
Dare to Ask: A gripping question involving, well, crotch-holding
Dare to Ask: Resentment over call center accents?
Dare to Ask: Why don't Germans pray in public?
Dare to Ask: What's the red dot on foreheads?
Dare to Ask: Is it fair to compare civil rights, gay rights, struggles?
Dare to Ask: When is a woman at her sexiest in life?
Dare to Ask: Any way to know if cart users ever fake disability?
Dare to Ask: Can you describe someone as 'that white girl,' 'that black guy'?
Dare to Ask: Dumb and dumber? Try overloaded

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Dare to Ask: Do some women gravitate toward abusive jerks?
Dare to Ask: Are Northern whites actually less accepting of blacks?
Dare to Ask: Did dentist need to be so close to her chest to work on her teeth?
Dare to Ask: Are Europeans less driven to drive?
Dare to Ask: Help, my partner is overweight
Dare to Ask: Gay men appeal to her. Is there a problem here?
Dare to Ask: Do deaf people scream when they are frustrated?
Dare to Ask: You dared to ask, now dare to answer
Dare to Ask: In Samoa, being big has always been a big deal
Dareto Ask: Tramp stamp? The term is half insulting, at the least
Dareto Ask: Shouldn't all religions get days off?
Dareto Ask: Why do men need to spit so much in public?
Dareto Ask: Do African-Americans sunburn?
Dareto Ask: What to do when someone you know is mentally ill and violent
Dareto Ask: Are American tourists really ignorant?

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Dareto Ask: Do gays feel shunned by our society?
Dareto Ask: Do most Muslims consider killing infidels acceptable?
Dareto Ask: Mom seeks nudist camp for 14-year-old son
Dareto Ask: Does man of modest means have chance with woman with dough?
Dareto Ask: Do cops act tougher in poor areas?
Dareto Ask: Two faiths - four issues over funeral
Dareto Ask: Is your welcome mat colorblind?
Dareto Ask: Fake meat? No problem. Tastes like human flesh? Um, well...
Dareto Ask: German-Americans sometimes viewed as enemy during WWII
Dareto Ask: Why call your parents to complain about your spouse?
Dareto Ask: Why are straight men wary about having gay male friends?
Dareto Ask: What's the reading process like for a deafperson?
Dare toAsk: Why do some people wear clothes with the tags still on them?
Dare toAsk: For Amish teens, a time for being 'un-Amish'?
Dareto Ask: Are teens really having more sex?

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Dareto Ask: It's 2010, and you have lots of questions
Dareto Ask: Why are American-born Asian children taller?
Dareto Ask: "Hey, How's the weather up there?"
Dareto Ask: Here's perspective on the rainbow connections
Dareto Ask: White guys a liability on basketball courts?
Dareto Ask: He dated daughter, now wants mom
Dareto Ask: Do Spaniards view Latinos as butchering the Spanish language?
Dareto Ask: Question about bodily function is not for the queasy
Dare toAsk: Can't the hungry just buy a cheap burger?
Dareto Ask: He doesn't (heart) upstate N.Y.
Dareto Ask: Is it OK to date someone mentally disabled?
Dareto Ask: No wave or smile from a white driver?
Dareto Ask: Can you be gay and Christian as well?
Dareto Ask: Let's decode a few high school subgroups
Dareto Ask: Are dealing, haggling the Indian way?

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Dareto Ask: Ice in urinals? Well, fancy that
Dare toAsk: How do hip-hop listeners define themselves?
Dareto Ask: Can this marriage be saved?
Dareto Ask: Why does Filipino start with an "F," and Philippines with a"Ph"?
Dare toAsk: Admit it, kids, you're lonely, techno-loving blobs
Dareto Ask: Are Californians just unfriendly, shallow, flaky yuppies?
Dareto Ask: How do really obese people get that way?
Dareto Ask: Why is it OK for comedians to joke about spankings?
Dareto Ask: Do Native Americans have facial and body hair?
Dareto Ask: How do blind people know when to cross a street?
Dare toAsk: Is NPR for rich, white, liberals?
Dareto Ask: The L-word and lovemaking
Dareto Ask: A serious lack of female 'juniors'
Dareto Ask: Don't judge Italians from a movie
Dareto Ask: Are Southern men and their ball caps inseparable?

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Dareto Ask: Are love scenes a rarity for minorities?
Dareto Ask: We have a few questions for you
Dareto Ask: What's wrong with using bra as a purse?
Dare toAsk: Do pagans say it's OK to be gay?
Dareto Ask: Jews had reason to shun Fords
Dareto Ask: Are smokers huffing and puffing over bans?
Dareto Ask: How much time should dads spend with their daughters?
Dareto Ask: Do you think Alaskans really live in igloos?
Dareto Ask: The couple that stays together ...
Dareto Ask: How bare they: Why do porn?
Dareto Ask: Do blacks wait longer to bury dead?
Dareto Ask: Agreement can also be hard to find
Dareto Ask: Are Asians the worst drivers?
Dareto Ask: To shave or not to shave - your toes
Dareto Ask: A burning religious question

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Dareto Ask: Take a few tips from servers
Dareto Ask: Who suffers from depression?
Dareto Ask: Mass transit open to all. And yet ...
Dareto Ask: Do Latinos see blacks as 'the enemy'?
Dare toAsk: Gaydar: How do you get it?
Dareto Ask: Four years of daring pursuits
Dareto Ask: Sir, may we have a word with you?
Dareto Ask: A lack of transaction interaction?
Dareto Ask: Women of all races get bigger
Dareto Ask: Catholics and use of birth control
Dareto Ask: Girl, you look good sexually
Dareto Ask: Mind if I crouch and join you?
Dareto Ask: Why are the wealthy so rude?
Dareto Ask: Safe, sane coming out strategies
Dareto Ask: Do Indian kids lack discipline?

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Dareto Ask: I'm a social worker; get off my case
Dareto Ask: Black ladies love long fake nails?
Dareto Ask: Marriage, relatively speaking
Dareto Ask: Make me a match, find me a find ...
Dareto Ask: Let's dial into issue of cell phones
Dareto Ask: So, are we really born this way?
Dareto Ask: Say 'Hola' along with 'Hello'?
Dareto Ask: OK to give your kids alcohol?
Dareto Ask: A bicoastal bias against Midwest?
Dareto Ask: Is education valued less by the poor?
Dareto Ask: Strippers: Living the high life?
Dare toAsk: Restaurants, recipes and religions
Dareto Ask: Your body, post-baby: Any hope?
Dareto Ask: An educated black man is 'threatening'?
Dareto Ask: Mental disabilities: In the teeth?

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Dareto Ask: Southern kings of the road
Dareto Ask: Honoring American Indians
Dareto Ask: Teens have a dating obsession
Dareto Ask: Let's say this fantasy is about you
Dareto Ask: Shedding light on suntan fans
Dareto Ask: Baby, why are your ears pierced?
Dare toAsk: Gay men and lesbians: No love lost?
Dareto Ask: Wash the dishes, then rinse, right?
Dareto Ask: Debating (older) age and driving
Dareto Ask: What's all the shouting about?
Dareto Ask: We sense tension over massage therapy
Dareto Ask: Step away from the dust bunny
Dareto Ask: They dared to aks, so we'll answer
Dareto Ask: The basics for being Jewish
Dareto Ask: No straight answer about sexuality

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Dareto Ask: Mexicans, beer, Sunday - discuss
Dareto Ask: Iced tea in the South? How sweet
Dareto Ask: Nice guy? A gal has her doubts
Dareto Ask: Only when you call us 'Little bit'
Dareto Ask: Emotions of Olympic proportions
Dareto Ask: Fiery temper to match that fiery hair?
Dareto Ask: Are whites forever in blue jeans?
Dareto Ask: Question is a real 'loo-loo'
Dareto Ask: So, if you happen to see a star . . .
Dareto Ask: Please translate transgender
Dareto Ask: I'm buying a lot of food. So what?
Dareto Ask: Southerners 'nosy' about your religion
Dareto Ask: 'Small' woman wants to gain weight
Dareto Ask: Which race is doing it? They all are

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Dareto Ask: Gypsies are victims of stereotype
Dareto Ask: Is it OK for boy to sleep with Mom?
Dareto Ask: This look says 'proud to be Latina'
Dareto Ask: Straight rules for gay bars
DARETO ASK: Spring line of turbans not likely
DARETO ASK: Nursing not a hot career choice today
DARETO ASK: If you can't see it, is it still sexy?
DARETO ASK: Trust fund? We wouldn't turn it down
DARE TOASK: 'Teaching' the Bible in grade school
DARETO ASK: U.S. blacks more tolerant of Hispanicimmigrants
DARETO ASK: Then we'll put our heads together ...
DARETO ASK: Rude? You don't know from nothin'
INREPLY: Dare to ask; dare to listen
DARETO ASK: Why do you call someone a 'retard'?
DARETO ASK: Get outta my way on golf course, ladies

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DARETO ASK: Here's looking at you, kid?
DARE TOASK: Some say it's 'so gay,' but it's not OK
DARETO ASK: Money for American Indians?
DARETO ASK: The French dislike us? For real?
DARETO ASK: This is very touching, folks, but ...
DARETO ASK: If those who could hear would listen
DARETO ASK: She feels like a teenager in age only
DARE TOASK: Born lucky? Some seem to think so
DARETO ASK: Don't think twice, Pete, it's a'ight
DARETO ASK: Can't take my eyes off of ... me?
DARE TOASK: Maybe Susie doesn't want a stupid doll
DARE TOASK: Are hottest models imported?
DARE TOASK: Who's going to rage back at road rage?
DARETO ASK: These wigs reflect code of modesty
DARETO ASK: Japanese sure do love bathroom

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DARETO ASK: Anxiety over mild tremor? Stop fretting
DARETO ASK: Let's talk about men's derrieres
DARETO ASK: Chinese food a favorite with blacks?
DARE TOASK: Those who 'dare' to do it themselves
DARETO ASK: Is racial profiling OK at airports?
DARE TOASK: Women see horses as 'big dolls'
DARETO ASK: What should she expect in India?
DARETO ASK: Little girls dressed too suggestively?
DARETO ASK: A forked tongue is more serious
BONUSDARE TO ASK: Where do lesbians go to see strippers?
DARETO ASK: Hey kids, ours isn't the only religion
DARETO ASK: Say nay, nay, to this use of Sheneneh?
DARETO ASK: Toughest aspect of being gay?
DARETO ASK: Comb-overs: Why, balding guys, why?
DARETO ASK: Why must they eat so loudly?

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DARETO ASK: Doctor will be with you in a minute
DARETO ASK: Car size matters to seniors
DARE TOASK: In Mexico, nickname often a reference to your physicalfeatures
DARETO ASK: The deaf are strong part of work force
DARETO ASK: Dandruff is dandruff, by any color
DARETO ASK: A little bit of bathroom, um, humor
DARE TOASK: Binky points to more than just a drinky
DARE TOASK: Workplace talk doesn't sound sweet
DARETO ASK: Are the Japanese obsessed with being in the photo?
DARETO ASK: You asked, so we need answers
DARETO ASK: Potty training: A black and white issue?
DARETO ASK: You were always on my mind
DARETO ASK: Did we hear you say teens mumble?
DARE TOASK: Muslims, Jews and a 'fear' of pork
DARETO ASK: When a belly goes to pot: Gut reactions

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DARETO ASK: The truth about waste in space
DARETO ASK: It's a matter of race: What are Italians?
DARETO ASK: You can touch her, if you're gay
DARETO ASK: Dressed to impress, even when poor
DARETO ASK: Diving into swimmers' breasts issue
DARETO ASK: Kids dissing their parents? Like, yeah
DARETO ASK: Atheists offer reasons for beliefs
DARETO ASK: Does missing limb keep suitors away?
DARETO ASK: Distinguishing traits of Asian subgroups?
DARETO ASK: Is lifting kids by the arms a racial issue?
DARETO ASK: Should we thank them for service?
DARETO ASK: Insulting the French, and prostitutes
DARETO ASK: Pump up the volume on that car
DARETO ASK: Is fastidious 5-year-old possibly gay?
DARETO ASK: Marriage is big deal for Hispanics

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DARETO ASK: No windows for Jehovah's Witnesses?
DARETO ASK: That 'lady business' will fluster a guy
DARETO ASK: The mullet: Hair-do or hair-don't?
DARETO ASK: How useful is braille at an ATM?
DARETO ASK: Catholics in need of education
DARETO ASK: White ink will fade on dark skin
DARETO ASK: Do American Indians have low tolerance foralcohol?
DARETO ASK: If she asks, should a guy give up porn?
DARE TOASK: Why is Patel big name in motel biz?
DARETO ASK: 'Attitudes' of upper-class white women
DARETO ASK: Got milk? Cows who give birth do
DARETO ASK: Personal space, race: Touchy topic
DARETO ASK: Do jaws drop over piercing of a tongue?
DARETO ASK: What's best way to handle breast issue?
DARE TOASK: Ignorance often leads to hostility

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DARETO ASK: For lesbians, is it only all about sex?
DARETO ASK: Can whites be 'smelly' like a deli?
DARETO ASK: Food allergy is nothing to sneeze about
DARETO ASK: Are women in the South subservient?
DARETO ASK: Left out of conversation at nail salon
DAREO ASK: We're old, so you must do what we say
DARETO ASK: The practice of female circumcision
DARETO ASK: Judging men who dress as women
DARETO ASK: Does money shelter you from reality?
DARETO ASK: Black women less fretful over weight?
DARETO ASK: Please allow a stutterer to finish
DARETO ASK: To him, super size describes the workers
DARETO ASK: Low-riders: It's all about being cool
DARETO ASK: Pregnancy a turn-on to some men?
DARE TOASK: Goth boy's parents in the dark?

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DARETO ASK: White people seem to miss the beat
DARETO ASK: Catholics on sex and birth control
DARETO ASK: Dreaming: What it's like for the blind
DARETO ASK: Discussing distinctively black names
DARETO ASK: Flamboyant behavior OK with gays?
DARETO ASK: No cats -- on or off the menu
DARETO ASK: Birds do it, bees do it, teens do, too
DARETO ASK: The Jewish view on life after death
DARETO ASK: Does race help athlete to excel?
DARETO ASK: We just eat differently in South, y'all
DARETO ASK: Read this, or you won't know squat
DARETO ASK: Mere fidgets behind his fantasies
DARETO ASK: Do older men tend to bathe less?
DARETO ASK: To ignore or to 'see' homeless
DARETO ASK: You have a problem with that?

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DARETO ASK: Time to open Dare to Ask mailbox
DARETO ASK: Let's try not to pick on picky people
DARETO ASK: Are Down kids aware of differences?
DARETO ASK: Kid, you're listening to 'my' music
DARETO ASK: Who's who: Gay couples label roles?
DARETO ASK: He's white, she's black: A problem?
DARETO ASK: Underwear, or lack of, is the issue
DARETO ASK: Passing out from grief at funeral
DARE TOASK: Overweight? It can make you invisible
DARE TOASK: Cover story: Men wear makeup
DARETO ASK: South Asians and matters of skin color
DARE TOASK: Actors really do study for love scenes
DARETO ASK: Good rules for helping the disabled
DARETO ASK: Attraction, when he's now a she
DARETO ASK: Washing up, without a washcloth

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DARE TOASK: Does society kowtow to the rich?
DARETO ASK: She's older? Ask her out, you stud
DARETO ASK: Does race really affect noise level?
DARE TOASK: So stop your kvetching about her
DARETO ASK: No linking deafness, being gay
DARETO ASK: Reading in bathroom: A guy thing?
DARE TOASK: Seclusion of Islamic women
DARETO ASK: Men from the South: Dangerous?
DARETO ASK: Some 'trot' at crossings; some do not
DARETO ASK: Are remarks harassment or flattery?
DARETO ASK: A debate: The Bible and gays
DARE TOASK: Let's not split hairs over matter
DARETO ASK: What is it about Asian women?
DARETO ASK: Let your curiosity do the talking