DARE TO ASK: Time to open Dare to Ask mailbox
By PHILLIP MILANO, The Times-Union
Enough already with all the ivory-tower dialogue about critical Jewish women,
nose-picking white people and purple-suit-wearing black males. What's your
reaction to all the ivory-tower dialogue about critical Jewish women,
nose-picking white people and purple-suit-wearing black males?
After eight months of taboo cross-cultural conversation, we thought you'd
like to see some reader missives sent to Dare to Ask's mailbox.
On critical Jewish women (May 10): I do not understand why it was
entertaining or newsworthy to write such a column. To group all Jewish women
into one stereotype only promotes stereotypical thinking. Are we not, as
educated people in 2005, trying to discourage people from doing this?
How does the question you asked about women bosses relate to one's religion?
If you are Catholic and you are a boss, do you lead differently than your
Buddhist, Muslim, Episcopal, etc. counterparts?
I never read your column until today, and I never plan to read it again. It
is a useless waste of space. Certainly there is more newsworthy information that
could be imparted to Times-Union readers than your "rubbish."
On white nose-pickers (Sept. 13): With all the news, both good and bad,
happening in the world and in our community, please explain why The Florida
Times-Union wastes print space on the "Dare to Ask" column? The feature today
crossed the line of good taste and professionalism.
M.M., female, Georgia
On black men in purple suits (Jan. 25), skinheads (Feb. 1) and "exotic" Asian
women (Feb. 15): It takes courage to go where you go every week. Diving into
touchy subjects on an ocean of political correctness can't be easy.
Clennon, black, Westside
On the Bible discussing sexual contact between men (March 15): I loved my
father. Does that indicate I have homosexual tendencies? Perhaps at one time the
practice of grasping someone of the same sex under the leg (Genesis 24:2) had
the same meaning as today's placement of the hand over one's heart when making a
pledge. Some people make a practice of twisting things to conform to their
On interracial relationships (Aug. 16): You continued to perpetuate
stereotypes by listing the "possible theories" (about the scarcity of white
male/black female pairings). These are old theories ... very old. You disappoint
me. Without a follow-up story, this negates the good you tried to do.
Brenda-Jean, founder, multiracial group, Orange Park
On the sexual leanings of transgendered people (June 21): You make people
think. You have moved our city to a new level of understanding. Thank you.
On "porcelain throne" readers (April 26): When a social worker visited my
80-year-old mother, she was elated to find her sitting on the commode reading
the newspaper. When I said, "What's so wonderful about that?" she replied, "It
shows your mother has not lost interest in the world around her."
Phillip Milano, author of I Can't Believe You Asked That! (Perigee),
moderates cross-cultural dialogue at Y? The National Forum on People's
Differences. Visit www.yforum.com to submit questions and answers, or mail to
Phillip Milano, c/o The Florida Times-Union, P.O. Box 1949, Jacksonville, FL
32231. Include contact information.