Dare to Ask: How do really obese people get that way?
By Phillip Milano
How do really obese people get that way? Isn't there a point where one
realizes how fat they are?
Kari, 28, Philadelphia
The same way J.Lo got her butt and my brother got blue eyes: genetics.
Aysha, 27, Ammon, Idaho
With dieting, if your metabolism slows, you can eat a salad and gain weight
or a tub of ice cream and gain weight, so why not just eat whatever tastes
Leann, 28, Hobart, Ind.
I was married to a very abusive man who accused me of having an affair with
every man who said hello to me in public. I packed on over 100 pounds and
realized I did it to make myself more unappealing to outsiders.
Rachel, 36, Canada
I'm 5 feet 6 inches and weigh 260 pounds. I used to work out with weights,
play tennis and exercise. I injured my back. I'm not blaming my weight on a
medical condition, but it did contribute. I continued to eat the same amount,
but being sedentary, I gained weight very fast.
Jeanne, 41, Aiken, S.C.
DNA and metabolism has a lot to do with it. I weighed 170 in high school and
for my height and build, that would be ideal for now, but because I believed
society's crap about fat women, I have lost and gained numerous times and am now
D., 51, female, Fort Worth
I don't think fat people think they aren't fat. Thankfully, my tall, thin
boyfriend disagrees with today's standard of ... heroin-chic as the look to be
Sara, 27, Scranton, Penn.
In my case it makes no rational sense.
Very large? You're still in charge ... of what got you so large.
That's almost always the case, said Robert A. Rosati, director of the Rice
Diet Program and associate professor emeritus of medicine at Duke University.
Massive weight gain rarely arises from thyroid or other physical problems,
said Rosati, whose clinic is in Durham, N.C., known to some as the Diet Capital
of the World and others as "Fat City" or "The Lourdes of Lard."
"It's habit. While you should say, 'I know better than to do this, I could
get diabetes or whatever,' when you're doing it, you don't think that. You may
know it intellectually, but when you're in the behavior, you're not aware it's
bad for you."
For most morbidly obese folks, things have gone way beyond food and into
loneliness, boredom, emotional or even childhood issues, Rosati said. The more
they eat, the less they can do, so the more pounds packed on for the same amount
of food eaten.
The easiest solution: Be aware of why you eat, and stay away from the
processed junk the food industry puts out to make it harder for us to stop,
"The manufacturers who add sugar, salt and fat in just the right quantities
to keep us wanting more are exacerbating things, because it makes us feels
better at the time when we eat it."
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