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Dare to Ask: In Samoa, being big has always been a big deal
Dare to Ask: Tramp stamp? The term is half insulting, at the least

Dare to Ask: Shouldn't all religions get days off?
Dare to Ask: Why do men need to spit so much in public?
Dare to Ask: Do African-Americans sunburn?
Dare to Ask: What to do when someone you know is mentally ill and violent
Dare to Ask: Are American tourists really ignorant?

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Dare to Ask: Do gays feel shunned by our society?
Dare to Ask: Do most Muslims consider killing infidels acceptable?
Dare to Ask: Mom seeks nudist camp for 14-year-old son
Dare to Ask: Does man of modest means have chance with woman with dough?
Dare to Ask: Do cops act tougher in poor areas?

Dare to Ask: Two faiths - four issues over funeral
Dare to Ask: Is your welcome mat colorblind?
Dare to Ask: Fake meat? No problem. Tastes like human flesh? Um, well ...
Dare to Ask: German-Americans sometimes viewed as enemy during WWII
Dare to Ask: Why call your parents to complain about your spouse?

Dare to Ask: Why are straight men wary about having gay male friends?
Dare to Ask: What's the reading process like for a deaf person?
Dare to Ask: Why do some people wear clothes with the tags still on them?
Dare to Ask: For Amish teens, a time for being 'un-Amish'?
Dare to Ask: Are teens really having more sex?

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Dare to Ask: It's 2010, and you have lots of questions
Dare to Ask: Why are American-born Asian children taller?
Dare to Ask: "Hey, How's the weather up there?"
Dare to Ask: Here's perspective on the rainbow connections
Dare to Ask: White guys a liability on basketball courts?

Dare to Ask: He dated daughter, now wants mom
Dare to Ask: Do Spaniards view Latinos as butchering the Spanish language?
Dare to Ask: Question about bodily function is not for the queasy
Dare to Ask: Can't the hungry just buy a cheap burger?
Dare to Ask: He doesn't (heart) upstate N.Y.

Dare to Ask: Is it OK to date someone mentally disabled?
Dare to Ask: No wave or smile from a white driver?
Dare to Ask: Can you be gay and Christian as well?
Dare to Ask: Let's decode a few high school subgroups
Dare to Ask: Are dealing, haggling the Indian way?

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Dare to Ask: Ice in urinals? Well, fancy that
Dare to Ask: How do hip-hop listeners define themselves?
Dare to Ask: Can this marriage be saved?
Dare to Ask: Why does Filipino start with an "F," and Philippines with a "Ph"?
Dare to Ask: Admit it, kids, you're lonely, techno-loving blobs

Dare to Ask: Are Californians just unfriendly, shallow, flaky yuppies?
Dare to Ask: How do really obese people get that way?
Dare to Ask: Why is it OK for comedians to joke about spankings?
Dare to Ask: Do Native Americans have facial and body hair?
Dare to Ask: How do blind people know when to cross a street?

Dare to Ask: Is NPR for rich, white, liberals?
Dare to Ask: The L-word and lovemaking
Dare to Ask: A serious lack of female 'juniors'
Dare to Ask: Don't judge Italians from a movie
Dare to Ask: Are Southern men and their ball caps inseparable?

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Dare to Ask: Are love scenes a rarity for minorities?
Dare to Ask: We have a few questions for you
Dare to Ask: What's wrong with using bra as a purse?
Dare to Ask: Do pagans say it's OK to be gay?
Dare to Ask: Jews had reason to shun Fords

Dare to Ask: Are smokers huffing and puffing over bans?
Dare to Ask: How much time should dads spend with their daughters?
Dare to Ask: Do you think Alaskans really live in igloos?
Dare to Ask: The couple that stays together ...
Dare to Ask: How bare they: Why do porn?

Dare to Ask: Do blacks wait longer to bury dead?
Dare to Ask: Agreement can also be hard to find
Dare to Ask: Are Asians the worst drivers?
Dare to Ask: To shave or not to shave - your toes
Dare to Ask: A burning religious question

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Dare to Ask: Take a few tips from servers
Dare to Ask: Who suffers from depression?
Dare to Ask: Mass transit open to all. And yet ...
Dare to Ask: Do Latinos see blacks as 'the enemy'?
Dare to Ask: Gaydar: How do you get it?

Dare to Ask: Four years of daring pursuits
Dare to Ask: Sir, may we have a word with you?
Dare to Ask: A lack of transaction interaction?
Dare to Ask: Women of all races get bigger
Dare to Ask: Catholics and use of birth control

Dare to Ask: Girl, you look good sexually
Dare to Ask: Mind if I crouch and join you?
Dare to Ask: Why are the wealthy so rude?
Dare to Ask: Safe, sane coming out strategies
Dare to Ask: Do Indian kids lack discipline?

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Dare to Ask: I'm a social worker; get off my case
Dare to Ask: Black ladies love long fake nails?
Dare to Ask: Marriage, relatively speaking
Dare to Ask: Make me a match, find me a find ...
Dare to Ask: Let's dial into issue of cell phones

Dare to Ask: So, are we really born this way?
Dare to Ask: Say 'Hola' along with 'Hello'?
Dare to Ask: OK to give your kids alcohol?
Dare to Ask: A bicoastal bias against Midwest?
Dare to Ask: Is education valued less by the poor?

Dare to Ask: Strippers: Living the high life?
Dare to Ask: Restaurants, recipes and religions
Dare to Ask: Your body, post-baby: Any hope?
Dare to Ask: An educated black man is 'threatening'?
Dare to Ask: Mental disabilities: In the teeth?

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Dare to Ask: Southern kings of the road
Dare to Ask: Honoring American Indians
Dare to Ask: Teens have a dating obsession
Dare to Ask: Let's say this fantasy is about you
Dare to Ask: Shedding light on suntan fans

Dare to Ask: Baby, why are your ears pierced?
Dare to Ask: Gay men and lesbians: No love lost?
Dare to Ask: Wash the dishes, then rinse, right?
Dare to Ask: Debating (older) age and driving
Dare to Ask: What's all the shouting about?

Dare to Ask: We sense tension over massage therapy
Dare to Ask: Step away from the dust bunny
Dare to Ask: They dared to aks, so we'll answer
Dare to Ask: The basics for being Jewish
Dare to Ask: No straight answer about sexuality

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Dare to Ask: Mexicans, beer, Sunday - discuss
Dare to Ask: Iced tea in the South? How sweet
Dare to Ask: Nice guy? A gal has her doubts
Dare to Ask: Only when you call us 'Little bit'
Dare to Ask: Emotions of Olympic proportions

Dare to Ask: Fiery temper to match that fiery hair?
Dare to Ask: Are whites forever in blue jeans?
Dare to Ask: Question is a real 'loo-loo'
Dare to Ask: So, if you happen to see a star . . .

Dare to Ask: Please translate transgender
Dare to Ask: I'm buying a lot of food. So what?
Dare to Ask: Southerners 'nosy' about your religion
Dare to Ask: 'Small' woman wants to gain weight
Dare to Ask: Which race is doing it? They all are

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Dare to Ask: Gypsies are victims of stereotype
Dare to Ask: Is it OK for boy to sleep with Mom?
Dare to Ask: This look says 'proud to be Latina'
Dare to Ask: Straight rules for gay bars
DARE TO ASK: Spring line of turbans not likely

DARE TO ASK: Nursing not a hot career choice today
DARE TO ASK: If you can't see it, is it still sexy?
DARE TO ASK: Trust fund? We wouldn't turn it down
DARE TO ASK: 'Teaching' the Bible in grade school
DARE TO ASK: U.S. blacks more tolerant of Hispanic immigrants

DARE TO ASK: Then we'll put our heads together ...
DARE TO ASK: Rude? You don't know from nothin'
IN REPLY: Dare to ask; dare to listen
DARE TO ASK: Why do you call someone a 'retard'?
DARE TO ASK: Get outta my way on golf course, ladies

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DARE TO ASK: Here's looking at you, kid?
DARE TO ASK: Some say it's 'so gay,' but it's not OK
DARE TO ASK: Money for American Indians?
DARE TO ASK: The French dislike us? For real?
DARE TO ASK: This is very touching, folks, but ...

DARE TO ASK: If those who could hear would listen
DARE TO ASK: She feels like a teenager in age only
DARE TO ASK: Born lucky? Some seem to think so
DARE TO ASK: Don't think twice, Pete, it's a'ight
DARE TO ASK: Can't take my eyes off of ... me?

DARE TO ASK: Maybe Susie doesn't want a stupid doll
DARE TO ASK: Are hottest models imported?
DARE TO ASK: Who's going to rage back at road rage?
DARE TO ASK: These wigs reflect code of modesty
DARE TO ASK: Japanese sure do love bathroom

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DARE TO ASK: Anxiety over mild tremor? Stop fretting
DARE TO ASK: Let's talk about men's derrieres
DARE TO ASK: Chinese food a favorite with blacks?
DARE TO ASK: Those who 'dare' to do it themselves
DARE TO ASK: Is racial profiling OK at airports?

DARE TO ASK: Women see horses as 'big dolls'
DARE TO ASK: What should she expect in India?
DARE TO ASK: Little girls dressed too suggestively?
DARE TO ASK: A forked tongue is more serious
BONUS DARE TO ASK: Where do lesbians go to see strippers?

DARE TO ASK: Hey kids, ours isn't the only religion
DARE TO ASK: Say nay, nay, to this use of Sheneneh?
DARE TO ASK: Toughest aspect of being gay?
DARE TO ASK: Comb-overs: Why, balding guys, why?
DARE TO ASK: Why must they eat so loudly?

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DARE TO ASK: Doctor will be with you in a minute
DARE TO ASK: Car size matters to seniors
DARE TO ASK: In Mexico, nickname often a reference to your physical features
DARE TO ASK: The deaf are strong part of work force
DARE TO ASK: Dandruff is dandruff, by any color

DARE TO ASK: A little bit of bathroom, um, humor
DARE TO ASK: Binky points to more than just a drinky
DARE TO ASK: Workplace talk doesn't sound sweet
DARE TO ASK: Are the Japanese obsessed with being in the photo?
DARE TO ASK: You asked, so we need answers

DARE TO ASK: Potty training: A black and white issue?
DARE TO ASK: You were always on my mind
DARE TO ASK: Did we hear you say teens mumble?
DARE TO ASK: Muslims, Jews and a 'fear' of pork
DARE TO ASK: When a belly goes to pot: Gut reactions

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DARE TO ASK: The truth about waste in space
DARE TO ASK: It's a matter of race: What are Italians?
DARE TO ASK: You can touch her, if you're gay
DARE TO ASK: Dressed to impress, even when poor
DARE TO ASK: Diving into swimmers' breasts issue

DARE TO ASK: Kids dissing their parents? Like, yeah
DARE TO ASK: Atheists offer reasons for beliefs
DARE TO ASK: Does missing limb keep suitors away?
DARE TO ASK: Distinguishing traits of Asian subgroups?
DARE TO ASK: Is lifting kids by the arms a racial issue?

DARE TO ASK: Should we thank them for service?
DARE TO ASK: Insulting the French, and prostitutes
DARE TO ASK: Pump up the volume on that car
DARE TO ASK: Is fastidious 5-year-old possibly gay?
DARE TO ASK: Marriage is big deal for Hispanics

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DARE TO ASK: No windows for Jehovah's Witnesses?
DARE TO ASK: That 'lady business' will fluster a guy
DARE TO ASK: The mullet: Hair-do or hair-don't?
DARE TO ASK: How useful is braille at an ATM?
DARE TO ASK: Catholics in need of education

DARE TO ASK: White ink will fade on dark skin
DARE TO ASK: Do American Indians have low tolerance for alcohol?
DARE TO ASK: If she asks, should a guy give up porn?
DARE TO ASK: Why is Patel big name in motel biz?
DARE TO ASK: 'Attitudes' of upper-class white women

DARE TO ASK: Got milk? Cows who give birth do
DARE TO ASK: Personal space, race: Touchy topic
DARE TO ASK: Do jaws drop over piercing of a tongue?
DARE TO ASK: What's best way to handle breast issue?
DARE TO ASK: Ignorance often leads to hostility

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DARE TO ASK: For lesbians, is it only all about sex?
DARE TO ASK: Can whites be 'smelly' like a deli?
DARE TO ASK: Food allergy is nothing to sneeze about
DARE TO ASK: Are women in the South subservient?
DARE TO ASK: Left out of conversation at nail salon

DARE TO ASK: We're old, so you must do what we say
DARE TO ASK: The practice of female circumcision
DARE TO ASK: Judging men who dress as women
DARE TO ASK: Does money shelter you from reality?
DARE TO ASK: Black women less fretful over weight?

DARE TO ASK: Please allow a stutterer to finish
DARE TO ASK: To him, super size describes the workers
DARE TO ASK: Low-riders: It's all about being cool
DARE TO ASK: Pregnancy a turn-on to some men?
DARE TO ASK: Goth boy's parents in the dark?

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DARE TO ASK: White people seem to miss the beat
DARE TO ASK: Catholics on sex and birth control
DARE TO ASK: Dreaming: What it's like for the blind
DARE TO ASK: Discussing distinctively black names
DARE TO ASK: Flamboyant behavior OK with gays?

DARE TO ASK: No cats -- on or off the menu
DARE TO ASK: Birds do it, bees do it, teens do, too
DARE TO ASK: The Jewish view on life after death
DARE TO ASK: Does race help athlete to excel?
DARE TO ASK: We just eat differently in South, y'all

DARE TO ASK: Read this, or you won't know squat
DARE TO ASK: Mere fidgets behind his fantasies
DARE TO ASK: Do older men tend to bathe less?
DARE TO ASK: To ignore or to 'see' homeless
DARE TO ASK: You have a problem with that?

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DARE TO ASK: Time to open Dare to Ask mailbox
DARE TO ASK: Let's try not to pick on picky people
DARE TO ASK: Are Down kids aware of differences?
DARE TO ASK: Kid, you're listening to 'my' music
DARE TO ASK: Who's who: Gay couples label roles?

DARE TO ASK: He's white, she's black: A problem?
DARE TO ASK: Underwear, or lack of, is the issue
DARE TO ASK: Passing out from grief at funeral
DARE TO ASK: Overweight? It can make you invisible
DARE TO ASK: Cover story: Men wear makeup

DARE TO ASK: South Asians and matters of skin color
DARE TO ASK: Actors really do study for love scenes
DARE TO ASK: Good rules for helping the disabled
DARE TO ASK: Attraction, when he's now a she
DARE TO ASK: Washing up, without a washcloth

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DARE TO ASK: Does society kowtow to the rich?
DARE TO ASK: She's older? Ask her out, you stud
DARE TO ASK: Does race really affect noise level?
DARE TO ASK: So stop your kvetching about her
DARE TO ASK: No linking deafness, being gay

DARE TO ASK: Reading in bathroom: A guy thing?
DARE TO ASK: Seclusion of Islamic women
DARE TO ASK: Men from the South: Dangerous?
DARE TO ASK: Some 'trot' at crossings; some do not
DARE TO ASK: Are remarks harassment or flattery?

DARE TO ASK: A debate: The Bible and gays
DARE TO ASK: Let's not split hairs over matter
DARE TO ASK: What is it about Asian women?
DARE TO ASK: Let your curiosity do the talking


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