I Can't Believe
You Asked That!:
"Milano is quietly revolutionizing cross-cultural
- Pulitzer Prize-winning nationally
syndicated columnist Leonard Pitts, The Miami Herald
"A book that's both hilarious and serious: It bravely answers
questions many of us are too nervous to ask for fear of offending
- Linda Vester, "Dayside with
Linda Vester," Fox News Channel
"A truly rare achievement. It's fascinating, fun and
informative, but it also has the potential to have a profound impact
on the way we all see and understand each other..."
- John D. Thomas, contributing
editor, Playboy magazine; editor, Playboy.com
"Phillip Milano. He's a question-and-answer guy, sort of like a
Dear Abby, but with really provocative questions ... This cat
(has) a whole book of uncomfortable questions. It's race, gender,
sexuality, handicapped people - a very bizarre book ... But people
are people and the more we get this stuff out in the open, the more
it disarms it. There's a difference between asking questions and
reinforcing stereotypes, and that's important..."
- Marc Maron, Air America Radio's
"I applaud you for what you're doing ... It's an incredible
book. It diffuses everything ... Nothing is off limits, and the
questions have that childlike honesty to them..."
- Dee Snider, lead singer,
Twisted Sister; host, "Dee Snider Radio," WMMR,
"A take-no-prisoners attitude prevails between the volume's
covers . . . Men and women in the street, so to speak, provide the
book's initial responses. That's followed by professional answers and
advice. This book is hard to put down..."
- Reviewer's Bookwatch, Midwest
"He doesn't care what we think about the questions ...
It's been great talking to (Phillip Milano) ... This was a good time
- and I was a little nervous about this segment before it
- Mark Riley, Air America Radio's
"If you've ever hesitated to ask a question because you think
it might be considered insensitive or impolitic, now is your chance
... Nothing is considered out of bounds..."
- CNN Headline News
"New workplace rules, political correctness and our tendency to
be super sensitive when it comes to racial stereotyping has meant
that there are questions that we have been dying to ask but were
afraid we'd offend someone ... But how did a white man end up the
moderator of what could become the great race debate? ... (Milano)
believed in the need to understand where another human being is
coming from -- even when we insist we couldn't care less. That is
incredibly valuable stuff..."
- Chicago Sun-Times columnist
"You could benefit from flipping through the pages of I
Can't Believe You Asked That! ... these questions can generate a
range of emotions and reactions. But the point of Milano's book is
not to get people mad, but to inform us about the lives and
experiences of others. Though many of the answers that people offered
to the questions posed in his book are conflicting, these responses
are balanced by the comments of experts whose responses to the
queries also appear in the book..."
- USA TODAY columnist DeWayne
"I like what Milano is doing ... I have to believe that there's
sincerity about people who take the time to ask questions about
things that they don't know about -- no matter how goofy their
question may seem. So keep doing your thing, Phil. Because
conversation is the first step to get people of different races and
backgrounds to begin to listen to each other. And ultimately, to
- Tonyaa Weathersbee,
BlackAmericaWeb.com, Tom Joyner Morning Show 's web site
"There is a genuine interest in the issues that his book
addresses. A part of us wants to know about the weird stuff, the
inappropriate stuff, the politically incorrect..."
- Susan Scott, author,
Fierce Conversations -
Achieving Success at Work & in Life, One Conversation at a
- Alan Caruba,
and the "Dare to
"Why are Asian people quiet? Is it okay to go 'commando'? Why
do black men look good in purple suits, but white men look like
dorks? These politically incorrect questions might occur to some, but
few would think to vocalize them, let alone make them the basis of a
column -- unless of course you're Phillip Milano of The Florida
Times-Union and your column is called Dare to Ask..."
- Columbia Journalism Review
"There are still precious few media sources focused on connecting
people rather than dividing them. People are so busy feeling
aggrieved, persecuted and put-upon -- often for very good reason --
there's not much percentage in trying to unite them anymore. But
Phillip Milano's trying ... So check out (Dare to Ask), and you just
might learn that the question you've always wanted to ask wasn't such
a dumb notion after all..."
- Eric Deggans, media critic, St.
"The important thing here is the dialogue. It has been established
under an original premise. The founder ... has taken a great risk
because he has gone against the politically correct movement. Mr.
Milano has dared to open the field of debate to the maximum to tackle
all differences related to race, sex, social class, the generations,
religions and geographical regions ... Finally, the universal impact
of the Internet is beginning to be felt. Web surfers from all over
the world are beginning to participate in debate..."
- Le Monde, Paris
"President Clinton's series of discussions aimed at
improving race relations in America has drawn a lot of praise and
some criticism that the participants are not always as candid as they
could be. But now there's a new web site called The National Forum On
People' s Differences located at www.yforum.com. You can use the site
anonymously to ask questions about race, cultural differences, sexual
orientation or disabilities that you may be too embarrassed or
uncomfortable to ask in person..."
CBS This Morning
"It's a sign of the times that racial, gender and nationality
questions are deemed so controversial that typically they are only
discussed by close friends, preventing much true exchange of
information. A new Web site has sprung up that is designed to provide
an anonymous forum for human beings of all kinds to talk openly. Its
Web address is www.yforum.com..."
- The Washington Post
"Phillip Milano's remarkable contribution to cross-cultural
understanding has arrived. Why Do White People Smell Like Wet Dogs
When They Come Out of the Rain? is a book based on his Y? The
National Forum On People's Differences, a remarkable
internet-based question-and-answer platform on which all of us can
put inquiries about other people and their habits and customs, on the
understanding that neither questioners nor respondents will get upset
with each other..."
The (London) Guardian
"A+ (highest rating). For all the talk about the web's power to bring
people together, it's rare to find a community-building tool as
unequivocally constructive as this no-holds-barred Q&A forum.
Everything you wanted to know but were afraid to ask gets tackled
here ... all those things you were taught not to bring up in polite
company. Thanks to the work of creators Phillip Milano and Robin
Dycus- Milano, this frank discussion of society's divisions will
leave you feeling oddly optimistic..."
- Entertainment Weekly magazine, "Best of Breed" award
"Phillip Milano has boldly crossed the line of political correctness
to create a forum for people to acknowledge their fears and ignorance
by asking questions that may not always be considered socially
acceptable. 'My desire is to change the ground rules for how we
discuss our differences,' he said, adding that, 'We can't get to the
similarities until we discuss and respect our differences.' ...
Milano does not label himself an expert, and neither his book (Why
Do White People Smell Like Wet Dogs When They Come Out of the
Rain?) nor his Web site is intended to offer solutions. His only
agenda is to get people talking..."
- AOL's "Dialogues Online: Racial
Healing in Our Communities," launched by AOL founder and CEO Steve
Case in partnership with the Western Justice Center
"A kind of frank, sobering and occasionally intense
discourse that tells more about who we are and how we feel about each
other than you're likely to learn from a dozen sociology texts.
Milano has successfully taken a frequently unconventional medium -
the Web - and turned it to a purpose it seems ideally disposed to
serve: Allowing people to examine their prejudices, their
misconceptions, their phobias, their curiosities within the
protective anonymity of cyberspace. Here you'll find a virtual
database of our differences - categorized and searchable ... Most
surprising about the content of Y? is how thoughtful and
well-considered some of the responses are to even the most demeaning
Newsday/L.A. Times-Washington Post News Service
"My prayer has been answered ... there is now a web site where
people can post all kinds of questions about other groups and get
answers. When I checked the other day, the web site was crawling with
concerns I'd never seen in writing before..."
- Columnist Betty DeRamus
The Detroit News
"Nearly all the questions were answered rationally and
calmly, even when there was an obvious disagreement ... The Y? Forum
shows the bulk of the people in the country aren't like those on 'The
Jerry Springer Show,' eager to start yelling and punching and shoving
at the drop of a hat..."
- Knight-Ridder News Service
"Even on the Internet, where the word 'shocking' has little meaning
anymore, the brutal honesty of the Y? Forum shocks. But for adults
who believe in the values of open debate, the Y? Forum is one of the
most vibrant stops on the Net..."
- The Cleveland Plain Dealer
"Phillip J. Milano's Y? The National Forum On People's
Differences is a candid information exchange that can help broaden
our understanding of our differences and, ultimately, our
similarities ... The site has received numerous awards and has been
widely recognized as an outstanding tool for teaching
- About Campus,
the magazine of the American College Personnel
"Can a straight, white male help smooth out our cultural wrinkles and
get America talking over the fence again? Does a guy raised in an
affluent, segregated suburb have the right to lead a national
dialogue on our racial wrongs or our social rifts? That's precisely
what's happening each daybreak in a dusty garage in Florida. There,
Phillip Milano cranks up his computer and fields provocative,
gut-level questions about some of the odd things that divide us.
You've heard them before, those wince-evoking questions that kids ask
in a crowded supermarket yet adults only bring up in whispers and
select company. But at a rate of 80 a day, these touchy queries are
posted on Milano's wildly popular Web site, Y? The National Forum
on People's Differences. They are asked by a public hungry for
frank talk and gobbled up by folks who are feeling overstuffed with
political correctness. From all over cyberland, the questions draw
rapid responses - some caustic, some funny, most sincere and
- The Denver Post
"Y? ... is one of the most inventive uses of a technology that is too
often dismissed as a glorified toy or a gigantic shopping mall ...
This isn't Oprah, where audience members do the talk-show version of
'We Are the World.' Nor is it one of those canned 'town meetings' on
race, where the dialogue is as natural as a snowman in Bali. The
dialogue here can make your face turn red, but it's also refreshingly
- The Boston Globe
"So long as we are mysteries, one to another, we face a
perpetuation of ignorance and a feeding of fear. That's why Y? has a
profound appeal to me..."
Leonard Pitts, nationally
syndicated Miami Herald columnist; author, Becoming Dad: Black Men and the Journey to
Fatherhood, 1999 Longstreet
"Why Do White People Smell Like Wet Dogs When They Come Out
Of The Rain? Only in America! A new book from a web site that gives
you answers to the questions your mum would whack you over the back
of the head for or PCers see as racist, homophobic or just plain
- BBC Radio
"Why do white people smell like wet dogs when they come
out of the rain? Why is it OK for black people to use the N word, but
considered offensive when white people say it? Why are black women so
loud in movie theaters? Are you shocked by any of these
questions? Or are you secretly curious about the answers, but too
embarrassed to admit it? Well, don't be shocked, and don't be
- "The Ananda Lewis Show"
"The Y? Forum was created under the assumption that there
are a lot of things we don't understand about cultures not our own
but are afraid to ask. This site lets us ask those questions without
embarrassment and then get answers back from other visitors, with the
hope that this kind of forum can bridge some of the gaps in the
- Tribune Media Services' "Web
"It seems truly unbelievable how clinically and constructively taboos
are discussed on the site ... The great popularity of the site goes
to show that at the basic level, the conversations we want to have
about our differences are far from what the official statements of
equal-opportunity employment groups would have us think..."
- The Helsinki News
"There's no question too personal, too sexist, too racist or too
anti-Semitic to ask here. Nothing too embarrassing. Nothing too
provocative. Nothing is too anything for the Y? Forum..."
- The Virginian Pilot
"The struggle to overcome hate is
unending for those on the receiving end. For the privileged members
of society, there is no way to know what it's like to be targeted
because of something you have no control over, like your skin color.
Open discussion is necessary to keep awareness levels high in all
segments of society. Y? is a forum for just such discussions ... Y?
what the Web is all about, meaning it brings people together from
different cultures who otherwise wouldn't be able to
CBS-TV's "Wild Wild Web"
"Milano reviews all the questions and answers posted to the
site for readability and length - and he often paraphrases reader
questions in order to get to their essence. The result is a space
where readers can safely follow a dialogue on sensitive topics
without having to wade through racist attacks, foul language or flame
Atlantic Unbound Web Citations
The Atlantic Monthly
"These are the kinds of questions you just don't ask: Why
don't more black people surf? Why are old people so grumpy? Why is it
that so many people with children seem oblivious to the rights of the
rest of us? Why do TV and movie writers so often portray less
intelligent characters as Southerners? The questions may be
politically incorrect, logically flawed,essentially insensitive. But
there is no end to them ... A spirit of genial openness pervades the
exchanges. Apparently dumb questions get straight answers. So do
questions that might get you fired or punched in real time..."
- Dallas Morning News/Knight-Ridder
"Okay, you didn't hear
this from me, but check out the activities at 'The National Forum on
People's Differences.' The title alone should tell you what it's all
about, but the great thing is that any visitor can ask or answer any
question posed at the site. What a terrific idea: build understanding
of our differences with an online forum in which people can address
"no holds barred" cultural questions..."
Yahoo's "Picks of the Week" (July 6, 1998)
"Questions generally reserved for familiar friends and
comfortable surroundings are receiving a public airing - and spirited
debate - on an Internet Web site that spares no feelings in
addressing them ... Race, gender, age, class, religion, geographic
area, sexual orientation and occupation are addressed candidly,
honestly and often eloquently..."
- Associated Press
"In America's struggle with race, one man is trying to keep
it real. His website dares to post the questions we're afraid to ask
out loud ... If Billie Holiday got the ball rolling on civil rights
back in 1939, today Phillip Milano is doing his part to foster
understanding between blacks and whites. Just log on to yforum.com
and you'll see what's shocking some people and thrilling others.
To The Best Of Our Knowledge,
"The president's town hall meetings on race are well-meant. Some say
they're politically biased. But one man thinks they're just too
highfalutin ... And so Jacksonville, Fla., newspaper editor Phillip
Milano started Y? The National Forum On People' s Differences, where
people get to ask what they really wanna know ... Is America really
ready for this sort of exchange? Maybe not, but if you are, the
address is www.yforum.com..."
- The Osgood
CBS Radio Network
"The National Dialogue on Race may very well be happening on the
Internet, but no thanks to the Clinton Administration. Credit goes to
a free-market, private forum. Phillip J. Milano created Y? The
National Forum On People's Differences as a way to answer tough
questions about race, sexual orientation and other hot-button topics
very few people speak about openly. The site has received praise from
newspapers, columnists and editors alike. Unlike the government's
National Dialogue on Race, the forum addresses the tough questions,
and also allows every opinion to be heard..."
- Frontpage Magazine
"Sure, the questions are sometimes shocking and soaked in
bigotry, but at its best, Y? is a powerful myth-debunker ... Y? isn't
a perfect experiment, and it's not for the faint of heart or the
easily ruffled. But at least people are talking and, one hopes,
learning from one another. It certainly beats the alternative..."
- The Tallahassee Democrat
"Clearly, this is not your typical after-dinner
conversation. After 10 minutes reading Y?, just about anybody will
feel uncomfortable. After 20 minutes, just about everyone will learn
- The Columbian (Vancouver, WA)
"This is different and challenging stuff. An open forum for people to
ask those questions about other people that are too embarrassing for
normal conversation. No holds barred, sometimes shocking, but very
Evening Chronicle, Newcastle, UK
"If America is so racist, how does one explain the success of
Asians in this country? Provocative, sometimes hurtful questions
like those are part of a unique exercise going on in cyberspace ...
Milano's new way is to let people use his Web site to ask direct,
no-holds-barred questions about people of other races, genders,
religions, ages, classes, sexual orientations, occupations,
- The (Montreal)
"Y? facilitates dialogue between people who might not otherwise talk.
It's a tool that can be used to bring understanding to peoples'
misconceptions about gender, age, religion, class and sexual
orientation. Participants post questions that they fear might be too
sensitive or controversial to ask in a face-to-face conversation.
Others respond, all without the threat of a shouting match or an
embarrassing faux pas..."
"A good example of communal cooperation on the superhighway..."
- The West Australian
"Y can't we all just get along? Y can't we look beyond stereotypes
and stigmas? The online site Y? Forum tackles those issues in
an inviting, open discussion where even the most potentially
insulting questions can be peacefully discussed..."
- College Press Network
"At (Y?) you may ask any question about people who are different than
you and receive a straightforward answer..."
- The Human Side of Organizations,
Michael W. Drafke and Stan Kossen, © 2000 Prentice-Hall,
"Y? is a unique and progressive series of discussion
forums. Y? challenges users to post their most uncomfortable - and
sometimes discomforting - questions, working from the philosophy that
stereotypes and assumptions can only be broken down when such
questions are set forth..."
- McGraw Hill Higher Education
"An open chat board based on a brilliant idea: We all have
questions about other people who (we think) are really different from
ourselves, but usually we're too polite or too afraid to ask the
questions. Here's where you'll find civil questions and civil
answers. The site is well-moderated. An entertaining and educational
- Magellan's Log e-zine
"The issue of race relations goes far beyond polite folks sitting in
chosen audiences in orchestrated town hall meetings ... If you are to
shake a bottle of something that is carbonated, you get fizz and then
the contents go flat. The Presidential Commission on Race Relations
doesn't have enough fizz to get it out of the bottle. For interesting
dialogue on race relations, visit www. yforum.com on the
- George Wilson, Washington
"(Y?) is being hailed as a gateway to understanding diversity ... So
go ahead, what is it that you've always wanted to know about another
race, culture, or the opposite sex? If you dare to ask, chances are
someone will dare to answer..."
- Next Step magazine
"An ambitious site..."
- Chip Rowe, editor, Playboy
"Diversity expert Phillip J. Milano says small cultural
differences can create big gaps in workplace harmony if left
unaddressed. That goes for both large and small companies. 'A
critical mistake that a large company could make is to think that
employees are not curious about people around them who are from
different cultures,' Mr. Milano said. 'Just because we live in an
information age, that is not to say that some people won't have broad
and deep misconceptions.' ..."
- The Cincinnati Enquirer
"Questions pondered among close friends are now being tackled by
crowds of perfect strangers..."
- The State News, Michigan State
"A remarkable new web site can help us understand each
other ... It's unlike anything I've ever seen on the Net ... A bold
and worthwhile effort to use the web for grownup
- Charles Bowen
The Internet News
"If you've ever had a question about a sensitive issue but
were afraid to ask, be afraid no more ... 'Y? The National Forum on
People's Differences' is a good first step toward building bridges
where few exist..."
- Encyclopædia Britannica's
"Site of the Day"
"Y? is an excellent place on the 'Net for young people. It
is a safe, constructive way to dispel myths and stereotypes and to
learn about other cultures. All questions are screened before they
are posted, and are answered in an honest, frank manner..."
- Media Awareness
"No such thing as a stupid question? Check out Y? It's an
awesome site that attempts to answer anything, and anything is
acceptable! Talking about our differences will help dilute some of
the ignorance and bring about a deeper understanding, or so goes this
- The Record (Kitchener-Waterloo,
"Four stars. The goal of this memorable web site is simple but
profound: To get people talking. This forum offers visitors the
unique opportunity to confront their feelings head-on by asking
difficult or embarrassing questions of people from different cultural
or ethnic backgrounds..."
Pacific Bell Knowledge Network
"Blue Web'n Site" Award
"A terrific Web site ... It encourages people to ask
questions about other cultures, genders, religions and occupations,
even about subjects that are normally too embarrassing to
- Ask Yahoo!, Nov. 16,
"Y? is a great resource to increase your knowledge of those
different from yourself - which is, of course, everyone else ... a
commendable attempt at using cyberspace to bring people closer
- The Octopus, Champaign-Urbana
"Web site of the Week"
"Why ask Y? Because they're answering all of your burning
questions ... Surely mature people wouldn't ask these kinds of
questions in mixed company. Would they? You bet they would! And that
is exactly what they're hoping for at Y? ... We've all heard the
Internet touted as the great 'anonymizer,' so what better place than
the web to strike up this kind of sensitive dialogue? Admit it, by
now, you've thought up at least a dozen questions you'd like to get
answers to, but have been too polite to ask. Why not head over to Y?
and post a few? While you're there, take part in the debunking of a
few stereotypes you're wise about..."
- Kimberly Hohman, Race Relations
"There's a Web site where the walls can be taken down ... Its concept
is pretty simple: If you have a question about differences in
economic class, ethnicity, race, religion, sexual orientation,
occupation, age - just ask. Questions about behavior, speech,
fashion, cultural nuance, rituals and history are all fair game.
Embarrassing questions. Uncomfortable questions. Necessary and
- Columnist Rosemary Harris
The (Colorado Springs) Gazette
"Y? is, in fact, a different and challenging website - an
open forum giving people the chance to ask those questions about
other people that are too embarrassing for normal conversation. No
holds barred, sometimes shocking, but always interesting, this is an
experiment in cultural communication..."
- Scottish Daily Record & Sunday Mail Ltd.
"Whoa! Now for some gut-level dialogue on race. Visitors
are encouraged to ask each other embarrassing cross-cultural
questions in a serious experiment to find out 'how and why people are
different from each other..."
- Web Winners
The Philadelphia Inquirer
"This is the brilliance of Y?: people can ask questions
that might be considered taboo or inappropriate, and a complete
stranger will offer their response. Nobody gets embarrassed, and
nobody's feelings get hurt. Y? explores a whole new world of topics
that many people may have never been introduced to previously. Web
sites such as this bring with them a sense of hope for the future of
relations among people of different backgrounds..."
- The Florida Flambeau, Florida
"No matter your economic class, ethnicity, race, religion, gender,
age, sexual orientation or whatever, this site is all about
encouraging communications for genuine understanding..."
- "Web Watch," The Florida
"Did you ever want to ask a sensitive question to someone
who was different from you - another race or religion or sexual
orientation - but were too embarrassed or shy? In a cyberforum with
clear rules for courteous and respectful dialogue, newspaper writer
and editor Phillip J. Milano allows browsers to share differences
openly and frankly and to learn about what is so frequently kept
- From Psychology: Themes & Variations, Briefer
Santa Clara University
professor Wayne Weiten (2000, 4th ed., Wadsworth Publishing)
"One of the hottest new sites on the Internet is 'Y? The
National Forum On People's Differences...'"
- The Detroit News
"Anyone can ask questions of any race/social
class/gender/sexual orientation/etc. and have other users answer -
interesting and enlightening..."
- IndyNet Gazette
"No such thing as a dumb question? Check out Y? ... It's an
awesome site that attempts to answer anything, and anything is
acceptable! Talking about our differences will help dilute some of
the ignorance and bring about a deeper understanding for one another,
or so goes this site's philosophy..."
The 411, Young People's Press
"Fosters a free and open environment where people are encouraged to
ask any question they have ever dared wonder about regarding race,
gender, homosexuality, religion, disabilities, etc..."
In The Company of Others: An
Introduction to Communication, J. Dan Rothwell, Mayfield Publishing,
"Why the need for an honest, uninhibited dialogue, minus the
vitriolic debate on politics, abortion or affirmative action on the
cusp of a new millennium? Sociologists say it's because Americans of
all walks of life suffer from cultural isolationism, which breeds
stereotypes, intolerance and fear ... (Milano) created, and launched,
the web site based in part on a feeling, and the failure of the
conventional media to get people to talk across their
-The Fort Worth
"At a time when everyone is scrambling to figure out how to make a
buck off the Internet, it's refreshing to stumble upon a web site
with loftier, more genuine goals ... The creator of 'Y? The National
Forum On People' s Differences' has taken on a task that few would
dare in these times of political correctness. Not surprisingly, Y? is
getting a lot of attention from major media outlets ... Let's hope
all of the hype over Y? brings more people and money to a site that
truly follows the intent of many early designers of the Internet: To
bring the world together and help it learn from its member
- The Sarasota (Fla.)
"Asking questions about gender, race and all the things you
think are sensitive to ask people about (a.k.a. afraid of getting
your ass whupped because you might offend them) is what this site is
about, and it definitely lives up to its purpose..."
"The format is fairly simple, though incredibly effective. What has
resulted is an informative and productive discussion about nearly
every topic imaginable dealing with differences among the peoples of
the world. The Y-Forum is an outstanding example of the Internet's
unique ability to bring people of the world together..."
- Peel Magazine
"A wonderful web site that seeks to bridge the painful
abyss between knowledge and understanding ... Phil Milano's
brainchild allows people an opportunity to challenge their own
prejudices. It allows people to expose their fears to light and air.
Be brave. Step out from behind the gate..."
- Jacksonville.com, The Florida
"The Y Forum ... allows questions from readers who are curious or
even ignorant - but who don't ask out of hate or prejudice. Answers
from other readers are posted if they are specific and thoughtful.
The goal is to have reasoned dialog, and it is
- The Commercial Appeal (Memphis, TN)
"Phillip Milano here shows the net at its best ...
Differences of gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity and racial
background, economic status - all of these and others are the focus
of this informative set of resources and archives..."
- PsychREF Resources in Psychology
on the Internet
"More evidence of a growing interest in racial and cultural
ethnicity can be found on the Internet. 'Y? The National Forum On
People's Differences' ... has no political bent, and it encourages
people to ask questions of other races and cultures without fear of
being called racist for asking. (The) site is drawing thousands of
- Columnist Tonyaa Weathersbee
The Florida Times-Union (Jacksonville)
"The most hopeful event regarding race relations thus far in
my life is not a major government program from our pain-feeling
liberal President, but a small website run by a 35-year-old white guy
from Jacksonville, Fla. The Y? Forum offers damning evidence against
the contemporary strategy for dealing with racial tension, which is
brute force ... Perhaps if we gave people the freedom to say what
they believe without legal prosecution or public condemnation, we
might begin to change how people really feel..."
- Columnist Michael Graham
The (Columbia, S.C.) Free Times
"An experiment in anonymous openness ... Many of the
questions posed in Y? are the kind that if you were 6 years old and
popped up with them, your mom probably would have smacked you in the
-The Des Moines Register
"Attention, you African Americans who have a computer or
access to one. Go online and visit 'Y?' Ask a question about some
other group. Then answer a sticky question posted about black folks.
Your answer will help others - and me, too..."
- Columnist Derrick K. Baker
N'DIGO weekly, Chicago
"Welcome to the Y? forum, a cyberspace alternative to
President Clinton's tentative, touchy-feely dialogue on race ... the
site has created quite a media buzz..."
- Columnist Michael Paul Williams
The Richmond Times-Dispatch
"Toss around touchy topics such as race, religion and sexuality with
a sincerity that is normally tabooed by political politeness..."
- Rough Guides
"The postings on Phillip Milano's web site are as pointed as they are
diverse. They are meant to linger in the minds of visitors long after
the surfers move to another location. These are the kinds of
questions people in a diverse society harbor but are often unwilling
to share out of fear that others will label them ignorant or hurtful
... Y? illustrates the greatest strength the Internet has - as a
forum whose size and nature of discussion is essentially
- Folio Weekly, Jacksonville,
"People ask the darnedest questions on a controversial new Web
site that is sparking spirited debate among complete strangers. These
aren't curious adolescents. They are professors, retirees,
scientists, engineers, college students, stay-at-home moms and dads
and a variety of other individuals from around the world who are
logging onto the Internet to test the validity of the stereotypes
they harbor ... Even those questions that might be regarded as the
most offensive by some are often answered in the most tactful and
- The San Antonio Express-News
"Honest questions and answers from real people. Ask the
race/gender questions you were always afraid to ask..."
- Webcrawler's Web Site Reviews
"Humans come in different shapes and colors. Now there's a
place to ask questions about those differences without fear of being
labeled a hatemonger. Race questions, gender questions, religion
questions, occupational questions. As long as they are asked out of
genuine curiosity, and not hate, there are no boundaries. The concept
seems to be working..."
- The Orange County Register
"You will get answers from experts or those people who
directly experience the facet of life you've asked about. Even if you
don't want to ask a question, the site provides hours of fascinating
- NetReader; Canada's website
"Y not? Suppose you could ask any question of anyone else,
regardless of how insensitive or even rude it might be? That's the
interesting premise of Y?, a Web site devoted to helping people
understand diversity by asking questions..."
"This brilliant idea delivers answers to questions you
never knew you had..."
- Netsurfer Digest
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